I am a member of a forum similar to the one described by the parent poster and I would under no circumstances link it here specifically and explicitly because o

I am a member of a forum similar to the one described by the parent poster and I would under no circumstances link it here specifically and explicitly because of the behavior regularly and explicitly exhibited on HN, including and especially in your post. "Citations needed" posts about anecdotal experience make good people leave because it turns a discussion into adversarial disproof. Your post kills the kinds of communities that are better when fostered.