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Being right in a relationship doesn't count for much. Even if you are objectively correct, relationships are about helping the other person live their life. All
by jackcosgrove 6y ago
Being right in a relationship doesn't count for much. Even if you are objectively correct, relationships are about helping the other person live their life. All partners in a relationship compensate for the other's shortcomings. That is one of the benefits of a relationship.
That doesn't mean you let your partner make bad choices, if in fact the right/wrong dimension involves a meaningful choice (it usually does not). It just means you gently guide them towards a not bad choice without hurting their feelings.
Insisting on being right sets up the relationship as adversarial rather than cooperative. An adversarial relationship is all about ME whereas a cooperative relationship is all about YOU. Mutually cooperative relationships where each partner helps the other are the best kind of relationship.
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