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And having a code of conduct is a sign that this place is so terrible so regularly that it needs a code of conduct to get people to be civil to each other. OR,
by PostOnce 6y ago
And having a code of conduct is a sign that this place is so terrible so regularly that it needs a code of conduct to get people to be civil to each other.
OR, everyone in power is a satirical HOA tyrant type character whose primary hobby is rule-making.
Either way, code of conduct is also generally code for grumpy and to be avoided, lest your time there be spent in moral lectures and petty arguments instead of on whatever the ostensible topic is.
I try to go places where people get along without a codified list of civil behaviors, because then I know I'm in the company of adults.
- Huggernaut 6y agoMore likely the uncivil behaviours go unnoticed by you.
- nyberg 6y agoThis kind of thing is what I see all the time and it's just exhausting at this point. One is always apparently blind as quick as they present a view of things not always being so bad without a legal document to direct behaviour. It's the assumption that people are barbarians by default and need to be herded like cattle rather than the possibility of them having some decency at all that I find the most saddening. You can have a welcoming and inclusive community without such a document and having one doesn't make you much more inclusive as it's people rather than the document that provide what you're asking for. Trust until broken and gratitude for upholding good values is the path to a better community along with giving a chance to do better. Quick punishment only leaves a sour taste for everyone. Also, a good rule is to wait 5-10 minutes or more and see if what you've written aligns with what and how you want to say it or at least expanding on your point a bit further to avoid being misinterpreted.