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> We are not very compatible in the sense that we have different mindsets and personalities but share values. The way I've heard this phrased is that you don't
by war1025 6y ago
> We are not very compatible in the sense that we have different mindsets and personalities but share values.
The way I've heard this phrased is that you don't want to marry someone with the same strengths as you, you want to marry someone who has the strengths you are lacking. You want someone who will complement you.
- grugagag 6y agoThis is not something I was specifically looking for when I was dating. I wasn't very sure what I was looking for to be honest, I think I was trying find someone to get along with as well as be attracted physically. When I was dating I wasn't even looking for a wife and this is a bit of a problem with the dating culture, only few want to take this step. This is important because it take your life to a different level or completely wreck it if the marriage fails and end up with kids and bills
- war1025 6y ago> When I was dating I wasn't even looking for a wife and this is a bit of a problem with the dating culture I can see how someone could easily get stuck in the idea of "dating" as a thing. I got married at 23, so I guess that's a stage of my life I didn't spend much time in.