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This. When you value intimate encounters with people you care about, there is an upper limit, even if you have multiple women waiting to date you. The only wa
by k__ 6y ago
This.
When you value intimate encounters with people you care about, there is an upper limit, even if you have multiple women waiting to date you.
The only ways to get those numbers up without going casual is to remove other things from your life or get bisexual partners so you can consolidate, and well, even that has its limit.
- bluntfang 6y agoThis is operating on the assumption that sex requires caring about other people at a high capacity. I'd suggest a read of The Ethical Slut if you're actually interested in a world where sex and romantic intimacy aren't the same thing.
- k__ 6y agoDidn't like that book, but thanks.
- bluntfang 6y agoRegardless of whether you liked it or not, it has a pretty effective framework against your assumption: >The only ways to get those numbers up without going casual is to remove other things from your life or get bisexual partners so you can consolidate, and well, even that has its limit.
- k__ 6y agoIt's arguing about the morale implications of casual sexual encounters. I didn't say they are good or bad. I just said if you don't want casual sexual encounters, for whatever reason, you don't have much optimization options.
- tomp 6y agoThe upper limit is, what, 4 or so new partners a day? That's probably how some rock and porn stars live (at least a part of their lives). But even being far below that limit (e.g. one new partner a month for a few years) will statistically place in the extreme tail.
- k__ 6y agoI said, without going casual, so the limit is far lower. I don't work much, and besides friends and alone time I can handle 4 partners.