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"the top 20% of men hold 80% of cumulative attractiveness in the eyes of women" - OKCupid stats As a guy who lives polyamorous, this is an interesting observat
by k__ 6y ago
"the top 20% of men hold 80% of cumulative attractiveness in the eyes of women" - OKCupid stats
As a guy who lives polyamorous, this is an interesting observation.
Many guys told me that they try the poly life, because if they don't have to be "the one" for a women, their potential partners would give them a chance even if they aren't a 100% fit.
Somehow, only a few guys end up with multiple women.
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- toomuchtodo 6y ago> "the top 20% of men hold 80% of cumulative attractiveness in the eyes of women" - OKCupid stats Also seems to hold up on Tinder: https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...
- PeterW2 6y agoThis is to be expected because, due to biological differences, male and female mammals have different mating strategies: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strategic_pluralism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strategic_pluralism
- ducttapecrown 6y agoHowever, humans are markedly different from other mammals, so maybe it isn't to be expected!
- everdrive 6y agoMating strategies are not exactly uniform within the group known as mammals, either. A number of things come into play, such as the resource differential between sperm and egg, and then general sexual dimorphism.
- mobilejdral 6y agoWhen men swipe right on almost every single woman no matter their interest it results in the women having tons of matches to pick from. There is no incentive to not pick from the top of the list. Even after reading through the profiles and discarding many of the men with a big enough pile there is only so much time in the day to talk with the guys so why not start with the more attractive ones?
- k__ 6y agoAFAIK you can't swipe right only a few times a day.
- bluntfang 6y agodefinitely see this in my scene. the most attractive guys have many partners while the lesser ones don't have that many. more attractive guys are fought over and rifts are created because of it. It's really funny because a lot of them consider themselves anarchists politically...yet the few attractive men seem to dominate.
- warent 6y agoI wonder how much of this is perception vs. reality. Many women trip over themselves around me, but I'm monogamous and have only chosen to be in a couple of relationships because finding a match is really hard. Just because someone gets a lot of attention, that doesn't mean they're going around having endless casual sex or unlimited girlfriends.
- k__ 6y agoThis. When you value intimate encounters with people you care about, there is an upper limit, even if you have multiple women waiting to date you. The only ways to get those numbers up without going casual is to remove other things from your life or get bisexual partners so you can consolidate, and well, even that has its limit.
- bluntfang 6y agoThis is operating on the assumption that sex requires caring about other people at a high capacity. I'd suggest a read of The Ethical Slut if you're actually interested in a world where sex and romantic intimacy aren't the same thing.
- k__ 6y agoDidn't like that book, but thanks.
- bluntfang 6y agoRegardless of whether you liked it or not, it has a pretty effective framework against your assumption: >The only ways to get those numbers up without going casual is to remove other things from your life or get bisexual partners so you can consolidate, and well, even that has its limit.