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If only not sleeping well and boredom were the only issues. Being born in a post communist country, teachers here have a really powerful position, work used to

If only not sleeping well and boredom were the only issues. Being born in a post communist country, teachers here have a really powerful position, work used to be scarce, parenting is... Different, and thus my parents placed way too big importance on school. School has ruined my childhood, robbed me of all joy for more than a decade, made it very hard to have (and trust) normal human relationships, made me seriously neglect my body, and nearly destroyed my family. Thankfully I was still able to pull myself out and try to repair the family as an adult. And I like the person I am now, with the experience and relationships I have, so I don't need the past to change, but things could have turned for the worse just as well. I am fighting negative/destructive thoughts (as in "oh if you did this to me I would beat you SO HARD", not suicidal) to this day. My children will never go near a school. (Edit: I really wonder who and why downvotes this)

Xelbair 6y ago
Oh yes, teachers in post communist countries can be separated into two groups: * majority that's absolutely horrible at their job, whose only goal is to average all the children. Hammer down nails that stick out, and artificially inflate grades of struggling children without helping them at all. * few great motivated teachers, who are genuinely great. Usually the latter ones were part of protests, or some anti communist movement. at least in my experience. Supposedly all communist countries had gifted programs, but those were stripped/forgotten in transitional era(at least over here). Small observation: i haven't met any PE teacher that was part of the second group, nor any of my friends(and their friends) ever did.
- TomMarius 6y ago
  The gifted program here was simply about doing more homework and more, harder tests. I was terrible at that. I need to learn by my ways - based on curiosity, with different explanations and methods like spaced repetition. I am very sure that I would do something really bad to the school and teachers if I didn't meet the school's IT teacher, who pulled me out of some of the really bad lessons to work on computers with him, and was the only person who viewed me positively and treated me like a human. I am still coming back to visit him.
- rjsw 6y ago
  I had one good PE teacher, this wasn't in a post communist country though. He just asked us at the beginning of the year what we wanted to do, we all replied that we wanted to do 5-a-side football indoors so he organized that.
elicitous 6y ago
And who will teach your children so that they can stay out of school?
- TomMarius 6y ago
  Me and my girlfriend.
  - elicitous 6y ago
    While both holding full time jobs?
    - TomMarius 6y ago
      Nah, we don't think we should have kids while we're holding full time jobs. We own a house and live in a cheap part of the world. As a developer for a foreign company I can support the family more than well enough on a single part time job, maybe not even that will be needed.

Xelbair 6y ago

Oh yes, teachers in post communist countries can be separated into two groups: * majority that's absolutely horrible at their job, whose only goal is to average all the children. Hammer down nails that stick out, and artificially inflate grades of struggling children without helping them at all. * few great motivated teachers, who are genuinely great. Usually the latter ones were part of protests, or some anti communist movement. at least in my experience. Supposedly all communist countries had gifted programs, but those were stripped/forgotten in transitional era(at least over here). Small observation: i haven't met any PE teacher that was part of the second group, nor any of my friends(and their friends) ever did.

TomMarius 6y ago
The gifted program here was simply about doing more homework and more, harder tests. I was terrible at that. I need to learn by my ways - based on curiosity, with different explanations and methods like spaced repetition. I am very sure that I would do something really bad to the school and teachers if I didn't meet the school's IT teacher, who pulled me out of some of the really bad lessons to work on computers with him, and was the only person who viewed me positively and treated me like a human. I am still coming back to visit him.
rjsw 6y ago
I had one good PE teacher, this wasn't in a post communist country though. He just asked us at the beginning of the year what we wanted to do, we all replied that we wanted to do 5-a-side football indoors so he organized that.

elicitous 6y ago

And who will teach your children so that they can stay out of school?

TomMarius 6y ago
Me and my girlfriend.
- elicitous 6y ago
  While both holding full time jobs?
  - TomMarius 6y ago
    Nah, we don't think we should have kids while we're holding full time jobs. We own a house and live in a cheap part of the world. As a developer for a foreign company I can support the family more than well enough on a single part time job, maybe not even that will be needed.