Another theory is that people disagree more than they think they do, but their actual actions are not as disagreeable as their opinions. So, two people will oft

Another theory is that people disagree more than they think they do, but their actual actions are not as disagreeable as their opinions. So, two people will often hold opinions that the other considers abhorrent but will be able to get along in practice (as long as they don't learn of each others' opinions) because their actual actions will usually be acceptable to each other.