that's because you're talking about competency stress and the parent is talking about existential stress. because stress is primal, it's easy to conflate the tw

that's because you're talking about competency stress and the parent is talking about existential stress. because stress is primal, it's easy to conflate the two, but they're not the same. as you get older, your ability to depend (at least as a fallback) on parents diminishes (in many dimensions, not just financially).