I understand. Purely anecdotal: This is probably a very bad thing to admit, but it is true in my case. Once I stopped listening to researchers and professional

I understand. Purely anecdotal: This is probably a very bad thing to admit, but it is true in my case. Once I stopped listening to researchers and professionals, I started becoming truly happy. I feel like I'm making my own decisions. Doing research and weighing options leads to self doubt which leads me down a painful dilemma. Now I just experiment and make my own decisions that feels right and it is very empowering.