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It's important not to apologize if you don't honestly believe you have done something wrong. When faced with a mob claiming victimhood or hurt feelings, apolog
by caffeine 6y ago
It's important not to apologize if you don't honestly believe you have done something wrong.
When faced with a mob claiming victimhood or hurt feelings, apologies can confer legitimacy to complaints that don't deserve it.
The forced submission and contrition gives the mob its payoff, and thus feeds it further. This appeasement encourages the runaway social media mobs which have now spilled into the real world, murdering and looting.
If you have done nothing wrong, do NOT give them the satisfaction of an apology. It is the first line of defense in beating back outrage culture.
- Balgair 6y agoThe point I got from the article wasn't this one. Forgiveness is a two way street. The sinner and the rest of the community have to come together to heal the wounds. Looking at the community antagonistically and suspiciously isn't the way forward. Each side has to take a leap, knowing full well that they can end up in the mud. That's an essential part of this, the risk. Saying that one side is incapable of understanding and kindness isn't what the article was rousing us to do. I felt the article was saying to both sides: take the risk, it's worth it.
- pjc50 6y agoThe world (or the totality of Twitter) is not a community. You can do this among people who know one another, but among the broader internet? No, too many full time trolls, factionalists, bot farms, advertisers and lunatics.
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