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Forgiveness requiring an apology isn't true forgiveness, it's more akin to revenge. And if you wait for an apology, you'll never be able to forgive, remove tha
by garraeth 6y ago
Forgiveness requiring an apology isn't true forgiveness, it's more akin to revenge.
And if you wait for an apology, you'll never be able to forgive, remove that burden from yourself, from those who have wronged you who are dead. Many instances of anger and a lack of forgiveness are multi-generational - or even parent/child.
People can rightly forgive without the other party even knowing about it. In fact, I'd argue the best kind of forgiveness is done completely silently, personally, and the only way anyone could figure you that you have forgiven someone is through your subsequent behavior.
- JoeSmithson 6y agoI don't think there's anything unusual about being prepared to forgive someone who is contrite and has apologised, but not being able to if they are unrepentant. It's nothing like revenge.
- thinkingemote 6y agoForgiveness gives most benefit for yourself. If I forgive you, I feel better and can move on. If I don't forgive you until you do something I expect, then I will continue to feel worse and you will be the cause. It's better just to forgive. If someone has done wrong and they know it, they may not want to forgive themselves, but it shouldn't stop others forgiving them