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"I've talked to Mark about integrity. His understanding of the subject is limited." - Fake Quote, 2020 I think it's rather that we have one identity and differ

"I've talked to Mark about integrity. His understanding of the subject is limited." - Fake Quote, 2020 I think it's rather that we have one identity and different aspects of this identity show when interacting with different people (think: projection of a higher-dimensional object onto a lower-dimensional screen).

jerf 6y ago
That is exactly how I think about it. I'm not lying to anybody in my presentation to them, but I do choose which aspects to present. They are true aspects, but I don't blast young kids with my interests in number theory, my children with my interests in the philosophy of communication ethics, HN with what funny thing happened to my dog last night, my parents with the details of how I'm designing a subsystem at work, my wife with the foreign language I'm studying... because what would be the point of that? The amount that I'm really trying to hide from somebody is fairly small for me... your mileage may legitimately vary for any number of reasons... but selectivity is still necessary to function. Even if I were perfectly content with absolutely everybody in my life seeing a total stream of everything, none of them would want it. This is primarily what made it so I never got on Facebook, and for most of Facebook's life, what kept me off of it. Now you couldn't pay me enough to get on it for other reasons, but those are more recent. This is the ur-reason. I already had multiple online personas and no interest in collapsing them.
zxcmx 6y ago
Maybe, although I've noticed that the group I'm in can influence my thinking and reactions. I think it's possible a group can form a sort of "exoself" and allow you to believe and perceive different things than you usually might. Not a sociologist, just anecdata. I suppose you could still consider this a lensing effect (aka your whole self includes this subset) but I'm tempted to see the group as a sort of extension or prosthesis.
S_A_P 6y ago
alternate take: The integrity of our ad revenue model and data collection works best with everyone having exactly 1 identity...

jerf 6y ago

That is exactly how I think about it. I'm not lying to anybody in my presentation to them, but I do choose which aspects to present. They are true aspects, but I don't blast young kids with my interests in number theory, my children with my interests in the philosophy of communication ethics, HN with what funny thing happened to my dog last night, my parents with the details of how I'm designing a subsystem at work, my wife with the foreign language I'm studying... because what would be the point of that? The amount that I'm really trying to hide from somebody is fairly small for me... your mileage may legitimately vary for any number of reasons... but selectivity is still necessary to function. Even if I were perfectly content with absolutely everybody in my life seeing a total stream of everything, none of them would want it. This is primarily what made it so I never got on Facebook, and for most of Facebook's life, what kept me off of it. Now you couldn't pay me enough to get on it for other reasons, but those are more recent. This is the ur-reason. I already had multiple online personas and no interest in collapsing them.

zxcmx 6y ago

Maybe, although I've noticed that the group I'm in can influence my thinking and reactions. I think it's possible a group can form a sort of "exoself" and allow you to believe and perceive different things than you usually might. Not a sociologist, just anecdata. I suppose you could still consider this a lensing effect (aka your whole self includes this subset) but I'm tempted to see the group as a sort of extension or prosthesis.

S_A_P 6y ago

alternate take: The integrity of our ad revenue model and data collection works best with everyone having exactly 1 identity...