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> Their whole personalities seemed built around it, and next I hear they've moved several hours away to a rural area—not even just the 'burbs. This is a commo
by danans 6y ago
> Their whole personalities seemed built around it, and next I hear they've moved several hours away to a rural area—not even just the 'burbs.
This is a common sentiment that I personally share. I am lucky to live in a dense city neighborhood with an amazing sense of community - stoop gatherings for drinks 5 evenings a week and kids doing chalk art and bicycling around, local teenagers to help out with babysitting, but also neighbors helping me move appliances, and me helping them with repairs and upgrades on their homes. It's like Amish barn-raising in the city.
But I have to say, that if I didn't have this, and my choice were suburbia or a mountain town ... the mountains win hands down.
- ryeguy_24 6y agoWhere do you live? I'm trying to find this type of city culture in NJ suburbs.
- danans 6y agoOakland, CA. AKA "Hell" according to recent news. I should be clear that things are far from perfect here, but one of the things about a strong community is that it is most helpful precisely when things are not perfect. If I had any advice, it would be to find a place with modest sized homes close to the street, and a mixture of generations and subgenerations, and a place that is not so poverty-stricken as to induce desperation in people, but not so wealthy that people don't really need each other's help.
- smabie 6y agoWhat you describe sounds exactly like most neighborhoods in Boston. Well, not the couple affluent ones (those places suck), but all the others. Really enjoyed my time there.