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In my experience (20ish years of cohousing and cooperative living, and a number of academia related moves) it can take three months to a year to really find a p

In my experience (20ish years of cohousing and cooperative living, and a number of academia related moves) it can take three months to a year to really find a pack when moving to a new place. People generally already have their own packs, and not much time for new people, so it takes some active effort to find a good crew to be a part of. The big exception is when you're moving as part of a large cohort, as in university or grad school, where everyone is on the same boat, with shared interests and few friends. Shared housing also helps a lot. If you become best friends with a housemate, you probably get their friends for free. But all of this is likely much harder under the pandemic...

danans 6y ago
> People generally already have their own packs, and not much time for new people, so it takes some active effort to find a good crew to be a part of. It's true, but some communities are more naturally configured to integrate new people. A major forcing function for this is having children. Children do not have the same set of guards up as adults, so they will often force new parents to go outside of their existing circles. Examples of this are communities that grow out of schools, childrens sports teams, or other community-based functions. The most basic community fostering venue is the sidewalk in front of your house where children may play.