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Sort of. I moved back to my hometown to an old (and I mean old) family flat that my father owns that is 2 minutes walk from my parents house. Honestly, I wante

Sort of. I moved back to my hometown to an old (and I mean old) family flat that my father owns that is 2 minutes walk from my parents house. Honestly, I wanted to shoot my self in the face every day. I love my parents, but I left their home and city at 17 and coming back after 20 years just made me realize I rather starve than live in that shitty hellhole I grew up on. Sorry, not related, but fuck, I hate that town!

throw51319 6y ago
You hate the town itself or just you hate the mental constraint of being around your parents and all the things that trigger your childhood? I don't hate my hometown but I do feel some mental constraint when Im here.
- odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
  Both. I hate my hometown (even though most of my old time friends live here, I can go to any bar/restaurant and I am treated like family), but the town, the overall people here, the layout, I just hate it. As for my parents, I love them, but both me and my father know that we can't be together for long. I moved back with them during lockdown to help them out, but god, the day I got out of there seemed like I won the lottery. (Again, I love my parents, but our personalities are so different that it is impossible to live in close proximity)
- dheera 6y ago
  Yeah I hear you there, that would be a big one for me. I have a lot of mental constraints around my parents. Not at ease doing things I like to do without my parents always trying to tone down everything I want to do for work or fun. It's incredibly stressful when they do that because it's always screaming in my face "don't be yourself, be the normal person we want you to be" and I don't think the point of life is to be normal
  - throw51319 6y ago
    Yeah definitely can see that happening. For me it's just that they project a mental space of me being unable to do even simple things, "make sure you turn the handle right!" They watch the news every night, my dad yells at the TV screen. Really annoying but not the end of the world. I'm trying to spend my time learning, creating, while using as little mental/emotional energy as possible.
throwaway713 6y ago
Do you mind sharing which town? Or which part of the world / U.S.? I’m just curious where you dislike so much...
- odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
  Ermesinde, Porto, Portugal. You probably never in your life heard of it :) Most people in Portugal also don't except for a sketch in an old stupid comedy show that put it on the map because 'Ermesinde was the town of the hot bitches' ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Uv7y1dtxUk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Uv7y1dtxUk )
s_y_n_t_a_x 6y ago
As a counter anecdote, I did the same thing and I love the experience. The difference is I bought a house nearby. It's actually been really nice, but I've always loved small towns and hated the city.
- odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
  And I find that great :) I had the opposite experience ;) And is not the big/small town thing. I actually moved from my 'perfect' place, and it was a 4000 people village :P I actually prefer that! Just my hometown, I don't know exactly why (I have ideas) rubs me the wrong way.
  - s_y_n_t_a_x 6y ago
    Ah that makes sense. I have a tinge of that but it's probably memories. Eventually we will move out when family is of less focus. We're young now so it was a good idea to have family close. Eventually we're going to move somewhere even more remote.
    - odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
      I have a cousin that her whole life always wanted to live close to her parents. She started to live 100 meters away from them. Then bought the land next to their house to build, etc. I have always been an independent bastard. I love my family to death, but I want to be the furthest away from them. I am who I am, but different lives have different requirements. And different parents have different ways to be dealt with. I can say here, I would love to have a more 'present' life with my parents. Do wood working projects with my father, or take my mother for coffee somewhere, but we are so different in the way we think, that 99.5% of the times, we just end up arguing (just Saturday evening, we had a family dinner with extended family, and I left their house after a screaming match with my father, no-one was right, we are just too different to ever understand each other)

throw51319 6y ago

You hate the town itself or just you hate the mental constraint of being around your parents and all the things that trigger your childhood? I don't hate my hometown but I do feel some mental constraint when Im here.

odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
Both. I hate my hometown (even though most of my old time friends live here, I can go to any bar/restaurant and I am treated like family), but the town, the overall people here, the layout, I just hate it. As for my parents, I love them, but both me and my father know that we can't be together for long. I moved back with them during lockdown to help them out, but god, the day I got out of there seemed like I won the lottery. (Again, I love my parents, but our personalities are so different that it is impossible to live in close proximity)
dheera 6y ago
Yeah I hear you there, that would be a big one for me. I have a lot of mental constraints around my parents. Not at ease doing things I like to do without my parents always trying to tone down everything I want to do for work or fun. It's incredibly stressful when they do that because it's always screaming in my face "don't be yourself, be the normal person we want you to be" and I don't think the point of life is to be normal
- throw51319 6y ago
  Yeah definitely can see that happening. For me it's just that they project a mental space of me being unable to do even simple things, "make sure you turn the handle right!" They watch the news every night, my dad yells at the TV screen. Really annoying but not the end of the world. I'm trying to spend my time learning, creating, while using as little mental/emotional energy as possible.

throwaway713 6y ago

Do you mind sharing which town? Or which part of the world / U.S.? I’m just curious where you dislike so much...

odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
Ermesinde, Porto, Portugal. You probably never in your life heard of it :) Most people in Portugal also don't except for a sketch in an old stupid comedy show that put it on the map because 'Ermesinde was the town of the hot bitches' ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Uv7y1dtxUk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Uv7y1dtxUk )

s_y_n_t_a_x 6y ago

As a counter anecdote, I did the same thing and I love the experience. The difference is I bought a house nearby. It's actually been really nice, but I've always loved small towns and hated the city.

odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
And I find that great :) I had the opposite experience ;) And is not the big/small town thing. I actually moved from my 'perfect' place, and it was a 4000 people village :P I actually prefer that! Just my hometown, I don't know exactly why (I have ideas) rubs me the wrong way.
- s_y_n_t_a_x 6y ago
  Ah that makes sense. I have a tinge of that but it's probably memories. Eventually we will move out when family is of less focus. We're young now so it was a good idea to have family close. Eventually we're going to move somewhere even more remote.
  - odshoifsdhfs 6y ago
    I have a cousin that her whole life always wanted to live close to her parents. She started to live 100 meters away from them. Then bought the land next to their house to build, etc. I have always been an independent bastard. I love my family to death, but I want to be the furthest away from them. I am who I am, but different lives have different requirements. And different parents have different ways to be dealt with. I can say here, I would love to have a more 'present' life with my parents. Do wood working projects with my father, or take my mother for coffee somewhere, but we are so different in the way we think, that 99.5% of the times, we just end up arguing (just Saturday evening, we had a family dinner with extended family, and I left their house after a screaming match with my father, no-one was right, we are just too different to ever understand each other)