> We survived that. Just because we survived something doesn't mean we weren't affected by it. I'm not saying this is what you're doing here, but this argumen

> We survived that. Just because we survived something doesn't mean we weren't affected by it. I'm not saying this is what you're doing here, but this argument -- I survived this, so you can too -- is often deployed by abusers to justify perpetuating a cycle of abuse. I think in general it's better to ask whether or not something is actually good rather than whether or not we are able to survive it.