> You are not responsible for those people being offended. There are different ways of communicating the same basic fact. Telling my wife she has a fat ass and

> You are not responsible for those people being offended. There are different ways of communicating the same basic fact. Telling my wife she has a fat ass and telling her she probably shouldn't wear those pants contain the same basic information but will have vastly different outcomes. The one message carries the side-band information that I am insensitive, lazy or just plain don't care about her feelings and the other shows that I am trying to state an uncomfortable fact honestly while taking her feelings into consideration.