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I was with the sentiment, up to this line (which may have been in jest): “I’m a busy woman, I haven't got time to accidentally date a Virgo.” So, you won’t dat
by sharkbot 6y ago
I was with the sentiment, up to this line (which may have been in jest): “I’m a busy woman, I haven't got time to accidentally date a Virgo.”
So, you won’t date a person due to a characteristic that they can’t change or had any agency in choosing, while simultaneously decrying racism.
I just wish people could find peace...
- OpieCunningham 6y agoThat is in poor taste. Or at least from a point of view that is failing to grasp the concept of racism. It wasn’t Virgos who enslaved Black people / redlined neighborhoods / segregated schools. edited to remove analogy because it distracted from the point
- euroclear 6y agoHaving a mustache isn't an innate trait. A person could shave or (possibly) grow a mustache, but they cannot change their date of birth.
- OpieCunningham 6y agoTrue. I edited to reflect personal preference.
- hyperpape 6y agoSo yeah, bad analogy from the parent poster. But what's the point of quibbling? There are other innate traits that might factor into who we date, something about how they look, perhaps?
- sharkbot 6y agoPeople choose to grow and maintain mustaches, they are choices not an invariant. But point taken.
- gruez 6y ago>A more appropriate analogy would be “I won’t date anyone with a mustache”, You can choose whether to have a mustache or not. A better analogy might be something like eye/hair color.
- __s 6y agoHard to say, eye/hair color have some genetic backing. Astrology at least is pretty good at being randomly distributed Which may be related to why those who have rolled traits which aren't in the existing power structure would be more partial towards this sort of equalizing trait to build first impression biases on Maybe we should have a dating app that matches people based on the last digit of their social security number. The idea here is to artificially reduce supply in order to compel people to interact with someone they wouldn't usually
- microcolonel 6y agoI mean, preferences kinda are what they are. You can convince people their preferences are stupid, but preferences in dating are amoral.
- troughway 6y agoYou're complaining about astrology preferences which are, for all intents and purposes, a micro-niche of dating. Wait until you find out the importance of how tall a person is (specifically, how tall men are). You're in for a surprise.
- sharkbot 6y agoEveryone is entitled to their dating preferences, but not everyone is entitled to their ideological consistency. I’m currently out of the dating pool, but I had my share of preferences at that time and my potential partners did too. Preferences aren’t the problem, holding two contradicting beliefs is (it’s ok to discriminate based on unchangeable properties when dating, but wrong when setting salaries). And I will follow the regression further to fully admit that my desire for rationality is itself a preference and not an unmitigated good.
- whynotminot 6y agoHeh, it's always funny to see a long paragraph in a dating bio discussing profound belief in progressive ideology: intersectional feminism, black lives matter, eco-mindedness, etc -- all good things in my book! And thennnn a postscript at the bottom: "must be X height."
- troughway 6y ago>black lives matter That's also mostly a farce and social status signalling. Most of them wouldn't date a black person to save their life.
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