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> I had just moved to a new city before everything, started a new job. I don't know anyone, it's impossible to really meet new people. Meeting new people seems
by CaptArmchair 6y ago
> I had just moved to a new city before everything, started a new job. I don't know anyone, it's impossible to really meet new people.
Meeting new people seems impossible, but it doesn't have. It helps to connect with others over a common interest or hobby. Boardgames, hacking for fun, volunteering, writing, photography, art, music, radio making, astronomy, movies, sports, gardening, museums, libraries, animals, cooking,... There's plenty out there to bond over.
Instead of trying to meet new people, try to look into something which is a bit outside of your comfort zone, but has piqued your interest. Look into activities like workshops, classes, courses, initiations,... Every city has plenty of small non-profits with really interesting offerings who do outreach to local communities.
It's up to you to figure out what you want. So, I just gave you a few examples. Well, try this: sit yourself down with a piece of paper and take 10 minutes to jot down every activity which pops up in your mind and is doable. Okay, you do that exercise every day for the next 5 days, refining your list. Meanwhile, you start to do some research about the things you've jotted down. Find out if they are interesting. You don't have to work on that 24/24. But keep things in the back of your mind and scribble down what you think. After 5 days, you should already have an inkling of things that might be interesting to do while getting you out of the door.
As for meeting people: that happens as you start going to those social activities. Sure, it's a lot like your first day of school and you don't know anybody. But that's literally how everyone starts out. At the same time, you're an adult now, and the people you'll meet are adults as well. And the vast majority will understand that you're new around their parts.
Yes, the quarantine has shut down a lot of activities, but that doesn't mean you can't shoot an e-mail to whatever initiative you stumble across, finding out if they would welcome you shortly, right?
- MivLives 6y agoThank you for taking the time to write all this out. I'm hoping that when covid becomes less of an issue that people are going to be eager to get out and meet people.