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>Peace, quiet, fully able to focus on my tasks. So no kids, lol. The hardest part of this is how I think it works this way for everyone else on my team at work

>Peace, quiet, fully able to focus on my tasks. So no kids, lol. The hardest part of this is how I think it works this way for everyone else on my team at work. They are (normal work + 100%). I'm (normal work - 80%). Got my first negative performance review ever a couple weeks ago. It's rough.

axegon_ 6y ago
Yes, no kids. And personally I'm __way__ above my 100%. 3 weeks in we did our largest release by a considerable margin(double digit larger than the second largest). Which is mind boggling still, considering the project itself is composed of +6.2 million lines of code and we make releases once a month.
conductr 6y ago
Feeling this. We have a 1.5 yo, not potty trained, the infinite loop of food in/out is a suck on productivity. He also doesn't understand why we can't play with him. Before Covid, we were pretty firmly against screens for him. Now he's a straight up couch potato, first thing in the morning he looks for the remote instead of wanting breakfast :( Yesterday, with much covid related hesitation, we put him back in day care. His original day care still is closed so we had to find a new one, luckily only 2 minutes from home. The flip side is, I feel blessed to have spent a ton of quality time with him and realized how little time we spent with him in a pre-covid hustle and bustle world. I've been wanting to downsize our lifestyle for a while and now my wife is finally seeing why and possibly on board. I'd like to sell our real assets and move to the beach somewhere and basically retire early / maybe do low volume consulting. I don't know if I can totally sell her on leaving the US, but getting closer. I really love this place, but it's freaking toxic. I do a good job of ignoring new media, but lately it's been impossible. I know the upcoming election is going to be a last straw that makes me say F this place, but I have to convince the fam too. I don't work remote very well. For above mentioned reasons, home = family/life, office = work, and I have partitioned my life this way for ever and it's very hard to make the change to WFH. Luckily, I'm a little older have saved enough and could likely retire now. But not by our normal QOL standards so best part of this thing is getting my wife to stop shopping and we aren't eating $100 meals on weekends. Hanging out at the park, swimming pool, etc. has been fun to have lowkey entertainment.
- dccoolgai 6y ago
  Yeah, I've been trying to compensate by working till 2/3 am but it's destroying my health.

axegon_ 6y ago

Yes, no kids. And personally I'm __way__ above my 100%. 3 weeks in we did our largest release by a considerable margin(double digit larger than the second largest). Which is mind boggling still, considering the project itself is composed of +6.2 million lines of code and we make releases once a month.

conductr 6y ago

Feeling this. We have a 1.5 yo, not potty trained, the infinite loop of food in/out is a suck on productivity. He also doesn't understand why we can't play with him. Before Covid, we were pretty firmly against screens for him. Now he's a straight up couch potato, first thing in the morning he looks for the remote instead of wanting breakfast :( Yesterday, with much covid related hesitation, we put him back in day care. His original day care still is closed so we had to find a new one, luckily only 2 minutes from home. The flip side is, I feel blessed to have spent a ton of quality time with him and realized how little time we spent with him in a pre-covid hustle and bustle world. I've been wanting to downsize our lifestyle for a while and now my wife is finally seeing why and possibly on board. I'd like to sell our real assets and move to the beach somewhere and basically retire early / maybe do low volume consulting. I don't know if I can totally sell her on leaving the US, but getting closer. I really love this place, but it's freaking toxic. I do a good job of ignoring new media, but lately it's been impossible. I know the upcoming election is going to be a last straw that makes me say F this place, but I have to convince the fam too. I don't work remote very well. For above mentioned reasons, home = family/life, office = work, and I have partitioned my life this way for ever and it's very hard to make the change to WFH. Luckily, I'm a little older have saved enough and could likely retire now. But not by our normal QOL standards so best part of this thing is getting my wife to stop shopping and we aren't eating $100 meals on weekends. Hanging out at the park, swimming pool, etc. has been fun to have lowkey entertainment.

dccoolgai 6y ago
Yeah, I've been trying to compensate by working till 2/3 am but it's destroying my health.