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not to mention that you get what you deserve wrt. the outcomes / kind of people this attracts. honestly, seems like good matchmaking to me-- shallow meets shall

not to mention that you get what you deserve wrt. the outcomes / kind of people this attracts. honestly, seems like good matchmaking to me-- shallow meets shallow.

koheripbal 6y ago
If it works for him, that's his business. No one asked for your judgements.
- paulryanrogers 6y ago
  Well, by posting on HN I suspect he's seeking more social currency via upvotes. That is judgment in a sense. EDIT: Forgot 'posting'
  - ReactiveJelly 6y ago
    I'm glad the culture of Instagram has finally trickled up into HN
- ido 6y ago
  Would you say the same thing if a spammer posted here saying how they managed to make money off of email spam?
  - afiori 6y ago
    Even in that context it would be a weird comment: "I worry about what kind of people would fall for such spam, probably stupid attracts stupid" It is an insult-like judgment coming from moral highness, both of the posters and of the women mentioned. As an example, in both cases a comment like "this is a disgusting toxic way to use the platform" would have been less of an unwarranted insult that still communicates strong feelings.
    - ido 6y ago
      Yes, I agree with that. I just found it odd that people jumped to defend the guy that clearly was doing something pretty unsavory, especially when the line of defense was "well it works for him" - spam and dark patterns also work, otherwise people wouldn't use them.
      - vmception 6y ago
        whats unsavory about sending messages from a popular profile and people finding that attention intriguing and less likely to ignore? not "earning" the popularity the way anyone imagined? every form of valuable popularity requires capital and external help. it has the same affect with the populous. sycophants with romantic interest are predictable.
        ido 6y ago
        It's dishonest. You know you're not selling what they think they are buying.
        vmception 6y ago
        Can you elaborate on what exactly you think is happening here?
- keeganpoppen 6y ago
  agreed. i don't view people like him as competition at all, as their and my interests in the dating pool are nearly completely disjunct. that said, no one ever asked for anyone's "judgements" ever-- not here, nor anywhere else. but yet they have this shiny "comment" button, and i guess i just can't help myself... welcome to an online forum, where people share judgments (among other things).

not to mention that you get what you deserve wrt. the outcomes / kind of people this attracts. honestly, seems like good matchmaking to me-- shallow meets shallow.

koheripbal 6y ago

If it works for him, that's his business. No one asked for your judgements.

paulryanrogers 6y ago
Well, by posting on HN I suspect he's seeking more social currency via upvotes. That is judgment in a sense. EDIT: Forgot 'posting'
- ReactiveJelly 6y ago
  I'm glad the culture of Instagram has finally trickled up into HN
ido 6y ago
Would you say the same thing if a spammer posted here saying how they managed to make money off of email spam?
- afiori 6y ago
  Even in that context it would be a weird comment: "I worry about what kind of people would fall for such spam, probably stupid attracts stupid" It is an insult-like judgment coming from moral highness, both of the posters and of the women mentioned. As an example, in both cases a comment like "this is a disgusting toxic way to use the platform" would have been less of an unwarranted insult that still communicates strong feelings.
  - ido 6y ago
    Yes, I agree with that. I just found it odd that people jumped to defend the guy that clearly was doing something pretty unsavory, especially when the line of defense was "well it works for him" - spam and dark patterns also work, otherwise people wouldn't use them.
    - vmception 6y ago
      whats unsavory about sending messages from a popular profile and people finding that attention intriguing and less likely to ignore? not "earning" the popularity the way anyone imagined? every form of valuable popularity requires capital and external help. it has the same affect with the populous. sycophants with romantic interest are predictable.
      - ido 6y ago
        It's dishonest. You know you're not selling what they think they are buying.
        vmception 6y ago
        Can you elaborate on what exactly you think is happening here?
keeganpoppen 6y ago
agreed. i don't view people like him as competition at all, as their and my interests in the dating pool are nearly completely disjunct. that said, no one ever asked for anyone's "judgements" ever-- not here, nor anywhere else. but yet they have this shiny "comment" button, and i guess i just can't help myself... welcome to an online forum, where people share judgments (among other things).