I think people judge because there is an implicit assumption that the poor in the question is poor enough that they might be getting some sort of assistance. I

I think people judge because there is an implicit assumption that the poor in the question is poor enough that they might be getting some sort of assistance. If that’s the case, a luxury purchase is essentially being subsidized by tax payers. And THAT now brings a lot of expectations in (i.e. don’t waste what others sacrificed to give you).