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>'I Don't Live in a World Where Fairness is an Option' This sums it up perfectly. So many times I am asked what I think of all this as a black person in tech.

>'I Don't Live in a World Where Fairness is an Option' This sums it up perfectly. So many times I am asked what I think of all this as a black person in tech. I don't think anything of it. It simply is how things are. You can either live with that chip on your shoulder, or learn the skills to navigate life with the cards you were dealt and deal with it. There is no other option, and how you feel about it is irrelevant. Some people are born with physical disabilities or mental handicaps. It's no different. Should we live in a world without racism? Of course. But we should also live in a world without war, poverty, and disease as well. It's a part of the human condition.

cal5k 6y ago
Well said. I'm not black, but I always frame it this way when I think about the problem: if I had children, what message would I want to convey to them to maximize their chances of success in life? Life is difficult, there are lots of injustices in the world, but there is zero sense obsessing over that which you cannot control. Focus on being the best human possible and the world will take notice.
- gns24 6y ago
  So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on? If people can, good for them. If not, I don't feel in any position to tell people that obsessing over injustices that I'm not experiencing makes zero sense.
  - aphextron 6y ago
    >"So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on?" What is the alternative? That's the point. I, as a single individual, can't spend my extremely finite time and resources howling at the moon and railing against a monolithic machine that cares nothing for justice or humanity. I can only try to live my life as effectively as possible within the bounds of our current reality. The civil rights movement won us equality under the law. But expecting the same tactics to result in social equality is a pipe dream.
    - munchbunny 6y ago
      > But expecting the same tactics to result in social equality is a pipe dream. Someone had to try, and someone has to try. Same tactics, or different tactics, whatever. Try things, do more of what works. We have to split our time between ourselves and our communities. Growing up as an immigrant Chinese person, "life is unfair, so you have to try harder than the white person" was what I was taught and what I did. It worked for my parents, to an incomplete extent, and it worked for my cohort of immigrants/ABC's, to a somewhat greater extent. However, that same community today is wrestling with the problem that without unified political action in local/state/national politics, it won't get much better than being a model minority, which is to say it's a more privileged existence than being black is (sorry for the bluntness), but you're still acutely aware of your Asian-ness in other people's eyes and when it works against you, such as being co-opted into the message of "well why don't [minority group] just work harder like [model minority group]?" as a distraction from actually talking about addressing root causes.
      - RcouF1uZ4gsC 6y ago
        > it won't get much better than being a model minority, which is to say it's a more privileged existence than being black is (sorry for the bluntness), As an Asian, I actually think that Asians are more privileged than White people. As a group we earn more, have better life expectancy, and have to deal with less historical baggage. If you search for it, any group can find areas where they feel they are being mistreated, but on the whole, your parents’ strategy has succeeded spectacularly. I think this is in part, because it was a win-win strategy. We were able to make our lives better without making another race feel bad or making their lives worse. Nobody had to lose for us to win.
        ithinkinstereo 6y ago
        What? No, Asians are definitely not more privileged than Whites (in western society). You're conflating socioeconomics with race. And how do Asians have less historical baggage? Many Asian countries have a history of being colonialized and being exploited.
        6y ago
  - kaitai 6y ago
    To try to make more explicit a point I tried to approach earlier: A Black person can't just crucify themselves over injustice in the world and thus fail to get all their own mission done and expect it to accomplish what was desired. Going back to mathematics, my own original world, I saw Black mathematicians being overloaded with mentorship responsibilities and education responsibilities and speaking responsibilities and recruitment responsibilities and and and, and oh yeah the research they're actually evaluated on! So this great mathematician spends all her time in the committees and recruitment and teaching classes and organizing outreach... and then fails to get tenure because her publication record isn't strong enough (only three papers! and with collaborators, so she probably didn't do the work, right, she's doing so much else how could she have had the time?), and then has to look for another job. While the white guy who didn't do any education or recruitment or outreach published five crappy papers (with collaborators) and got tenure. That Black mathematician's responsibility is her own survival and success. Her own survival and success is more valuable to the world than teaching freshman calculus this year, because if she gets tenure, she can teach freshman calc another year. "I don't live in a world where fairness is an option," is a fair statement. If she tries to change it alone, she fails and burns out. What was the benefit of that? What was the gain? So the rest of us (for any given value of 'us') ought to step up.
    - idjango 6y ago
      I'd step in as black guy coming from what I'd qualify as a priviledged background in Africa. So I don't think I can really understand the issues for black communities in America. But in my opinion, what is lacking for black communities is usually a global community strategy that free individuals energy by showing some beaten track they can easily use to reach the position people before them reached and build over this to move higher. Sometimes I have the feeling that black people fight the wrong fight. You can't ask for change without power and in today world it means capital. Black as a "race" is more than 1 billion individuals that's enough to foster anything important for the community as a whole. I don't know for the US but for France very few black people support black initiatives. They usual answer is that they'll do it when they earn more but we all know that money is never enough... In a world where your real voting power is your dollars this can't work. Asians understood this maybe instinctively. You have to build a working community first (paths for education, culture, jobs, households...) so that any average black person get a "good environment" to nurture its growth so he can become a good, balanced, caring adult. The strategy so far was to publicly and politically fight (which is good) but after each protest the individuals are back to their own struggles with little to no help or care from other black people (again as a community). If everyone cares only for it's own issues it won't work. Our role is to educate young black people. Tell them how the world is but also show them that they have a functional place in it and that they can start to build it from elementary school!
  - stronglikedan 6y ago
    > black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on That's exactly what's being said to white people right now, and as a white person, I don't think that any race should accept it. The current dilemma is that apparently not accepting racism towards white people, as a white person, seems to make me racist somehow. Go figure.
  - munchbunny 6y ago
    > So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on? Personal opinion: yes, but also no. I think this is a false dichotomy. As an individual, day to day, what can you do about the systemic issues? Not much. Maybe confront someone every now and then to improve things for a friend or coworker. But, for yourself, the only thing you can do is to accept that you have a shitty hand and do the best you can with it. The hand you have is the hand you have, arguing that it should be better won't make it better. However, year by year, the reality is that there is a systemic problem, and when a whole population all have a shitty hand to play, statistically you're going to expect worse outcomes. If you let yourself get crushed by the weight of the systemic issues, you're not going to be in any condition to help others, but if you don't do anything about the systemic problem, then future success stories of people like you will continue to be statistical anomalies. So take care of yourself, and then try your best to help the people that come after you.
    - tomjakubowski 6y ago
      > As an individual, day to day, what can you do about the systemic issues? Not much. This is precisely why activists organize groups of people: so that they may act together and stand a chance of effecting change. Historically, with large enough organization, it has worked pretty well at times.
      - munchbunny 6y ago
        I completely agree, and I'm grateful there are activists to organize these efforts. Since this is such a sensitive topic, I think I need to elaborate a bit more on the individual vs. systemic perspective. When I was growing up, I was told that the game is rigged against me, and I was going to have to dig deep. I had to make peace with the idea that, for example, I needed better SAT scores for the same college applications. (I didn't pick the example for its severity, I picked it because it's a measured phenomenon.) That's just the reality of racism/sexism/ageism/whatever. That's the individual perspective: game's rigged against you, deal with it. But where this line of thinking becomes racist is when, for example, one of the Chinese immigrant parents in my community asks "why don't black people just work harder?" How do you know how hard they work? If it was just about working harder, the problem would be solved by now. In that case saying that black people should work harder comes from a place of ignorance of the real problems, which proves the point that it's important to make noise about systemic problems. That's the systemic perspective. I don't think either point has to invalidate the other, but I've personally experienced both people saying "work harder" as a form of victim-blaming out of ignorance as well as people blaming personal failings on the system holding them down, and everything in between including real role models who are just venting. So I tend to just keep my mouth shut about it in my personal life.
  - cal5k 6y ago
    Nope. I'm saying that if I had children, I'd tell them the above. I'd argue it's ultimately a much more effective way to combat racism/bigotry/whatever, unless you accept the Critical Race Theory definition of racism, which I do not. The military is probably the best evidence that this works. They take black, white, hispanic, and Asian Americans and put them through rigorous training together. In the end, nobody gives a crap what the other people look like or where they came from - they're your brothers and sisters and you trust them with your life. Dehumanizing people, calling them out, invoking the mob, getting people fired... these are all tactics that are doomed to stoke animosity, not reduce it.
  - manfredo 6y ago
    I think they're using "accept" to convey "come to terms with the fact that it exists" not accepting it as an inevitable part of society. You can accept that racism exists, but still actively try to mitigate or reduce it.
- karpierz 6y ago
  I'm sure Nelson Mandela, MLK, and Rosa Parks really would've done well with this advice.
  - klyrs 6y ago
    Nelson Mandela spent years in prison; MLK was assassinated. It is not every single black person's job to be on the front lines. That's not only completely unsustainable, but it's also ok for black children dream of being a doctor, programmer, VC, whathaveyou, without demanding that they also be martyrs for a cause that's entirely out of their hands. The point I glean from OC is that he can't do the work. He can't stop people from being racist. That's not only not his job, it's also an impossible task. The people who need to do the work are the people who are making conscious or unconscious biased choices which disproportionately impact black lives. It's not up to black people. It's up to everybody else to do that work.
    - mbesto 6y ago
      > It is not every single black person's job to be on the front lines. Sure, but if everyone has this attitude then the collective group suffers. e.g. bandwagon bias, and thus the individual suffers as a result. > It's not up to black people. It's up to everybody else to do that work. Sure, and clearly whats happening right now is that people who are not marginalized (e.g. white people) are learning what is required to do the "work". That doesn't happen without the activists showing up and saying "hey white people, educate yourselves, read XYZ". > it's also ok for black children dream of being a doctor, programmer, VC, whathaveyou, without demanding that they also be martyrs for a cause that's entirely out of their hands. I don't think anyone is suggesting that everyone has to be a martyr for a cause, just that (1) their existence is important and (2) if marginalized groups of people just accept status quo then there is little incentive for those martyrs to exist. > The point I glean from OC is that he can't do the work. Because he literally can't do it (handicapped?) or because they don't want to because it's risky? The point I lean from the OC is that he enjoys the luxuries of his life but is unwilling to fight for others who are similar. In the original article the VC basically says "I don't waste my energy on acknowledging racial biases on a day to day basis because I already know these exist". This is not the same as saying "I can't be a martyr". > That's not only not his job, it's also an impossible task. People don't get paid to fix civil rights, it's not a job. People have taken it upon themselves to answer that calling. I think it's fine to say "I don't believe it's my role in life to" but to pretend it's not required while still enjoying the benefits of those who do sacrifice themselves is an extremely selfish outlook on life. > The people who need to do the work are the people who are making conscious or unconscious biased choices which disproportionately impact black lives. And how do you propose those people fix that? Do they just wake up one day and say "ya know what I'm gonna stop giving into my unconscious bias"?
kaitai 6y ago
The strategies we use to optimize our own possibilities for success encompass one set of options (and what you say is pretty much what I think, too, about the 'woman in tech' issue). Then the strategies that will optimize success for groups are slightly different. For those of us who are not, say, Black entrepreneurs or VCs in tech, we should think about that second set of strategies if we are interested in improving the tech ecosystem. I'd argue that VCs probably have a responsibility/need to think about that second set of strategies because a VC's job is to build a network and ecosystem that ensures success for their investments. On an individual level (just again from my own experience) operating as if sexism doesn't exist, in general, and looking at each individual I have to deal with as an individual is optimal on a daily basis. But I do have to come up to 30000 feet now and then to strategize about the bigger picture -- sometimes to figure out how I fit in, sometimes to figure out what I might want to do to help others with their goals, sometimes to point out to a friend that what might cost me too much in the workplace would be easy for them to suggest. I'm not a VC, just a worker drone. Must be interesting to be on the investment side!
- screye 6y ago
  > The strategies we use to optimize our own possibilities for success encompass one set of options. Then the strategies that will optimize success for groups are slightly different. These are words to live life by. What works for the 'person' often does not work for the 'people'. Systemic inequalities only truly reveal themselves in statistics. Thus, an individual anecdote by a 'person' serves no purpose for a policy that's created for the 'people' what-so-ever. On the other hand though, those anecdotes are central to the 'person' and 'persons' who associate with them. Now, treating those same anecdotes with indifference can be catastrophic to your 'person'-al relationship. It's how as a country I encouraging STEM as a policy for the people is a great idea. However, pushing/incentivizing your own child towards STEM when they clearly want to do something else is not so great. As humans we need to compartmentalize the way we empathize, strategize and process emotions along the same lines of 'people' vs 'persons'.
BoorishBears 6y ago
> You can either live with that chip on your shoulder, or learn the skills to navigate life with the cards you were dealt and deal with it. There is no other option, and how you feel about it is irrelevant. Speak for yourself. I'm sure you'll get a lot of support for this point of view because it's the easy way out. (it's what white people love to hear to because that means "aha! this one gets it!") Throw your hands up, keep your chin up right? I don't roll over like this because it's not how I was raised. My parents came from less than poverty, my father all but lost a finger farming for pennies to cover school fees while his father drank away what little money they had in his home country. My mother didn't have parents to raise her, she came from a home where she was seen as a burden foisted upon her caretakers by familial obligation, and their wish for her was to be a seamstress Today they both hold doctorates, their siblings are doctors and nurses and engineers, all coming from the same backgrounds. I wasn't raised to roll over and tell myself "it's not under my control", that mentality wouldn't have gotten them where they are today, and it wouldn't have gotten me where I am today. - Fairness is always an option, the problem is it's expensive, it's hard work, it's humiliating sometimes, it's risky. When you're slighted and you feel it's because of the color of your skin, the moment you say something, you're painting a target on your back. Sometimes it means you have to walk away from opportunity. So some good little kids tell themselves it's not an option, they can't take that risk, they can't risk being the tall nail, or not grasping a opportunity they have just because it might be tainted with "unfairness". Maybe it's a privilege that my parents have passed onto me, putting my in a position where I could take those risks and stand tall, but I grasp on to it proudly, and it makes me stronger than those who can't to the same. I honestly don't have a problem with people who can't do the same, but trying to spread that brand of thinking is weak and shouldn't be done. It's a coping mechanism, it's not something to be paraded and shared as sound advice like your comment does. Against all of what defines them, I'm sure there were times where my parents had to swallow that strength and put up with "unfairness" (in fact, I know of it from them first hand), but by not changing themselves, and by not buying into the narrative that "it is what it is, it's the human condition", they were able to pass on that strength to me, and put me in a much better place than they would have otherwise I mean look _the whole passage_, the article is about a black man who is not buying "fairness is not an option" and yet you seem to have somehow picked out the counter-argument which is immediately torn down: > "I don't live in a world where fairness is an option," he said. "I am certain that over the time in my professional career there are things that have made it difficult as an African American. I have put so little time in acknowledging those instances because that's what I expected." > But that milieu may ultimately hurt venture's bottom line. > Gompers, who looked at the performance of venture portfolios that had more diverse teams, found they achieved better returns than homogenous teams. > "The importance of diversity is all about making better decisions," he said. "If you all look the same and have the same experiences, you are gonna make the same mistakes." People still don't get this, diversity's reward is not different amounts of melanin in the skin of the people sitting at a table. As long as people continue to make this basic misunderstanding, they will continue to fail to understand why diversity matters, and they will continue to feel as if it's needless feel good charity work. Diversity is different walks of life and different ways of thought that come with it. People still see taking people of different backgrounds as some sort of charity, they don't understand how much stronger they can be than competitors where every person in the room is a different shade of the same background.
rsynnott 6y ago
> But we should also live in a world without war, poverty, and disease as well. It's a part of the human condition. As a, er, planet, we've actually done fairly well at easing those over the last century, tho. Sure, they're not gone, and maybe they'll never be gone, but improvements can be made, and it's probably not helpful to treat them, or racism, as laws of nature. I do think there's a perception problem, though. Basically no-one would claim that disease or poverty aren't problems anymore, but there are a surprisingly large number of (mostly white, obviously) people who claim racism isn't a problem anymore.
beepboopbeep 6y ago
This is such a defeated mindset. You're welcome to it all you want, but some of us aren't willing to settle.
- BoorishBears 6y ago
  It's telling that what you said is such an unpopular sentiment when the article is literally about those of us who won't settle. I wonder how many people are reading this person's quote and assuming the angle of the article matches what they wanted to hear.
  - dang 6y ago
    That sort of logic doesn't work in cases like this, and it leads to a lot of misperceptions. The readership (and votership) is a large statistical cloud, with wide variance of views and feelings and assumptions. It's not only natural but inevitable that some take one angle and some take another. The people who upvoted this article are likely to have done so for straightforward reasons, such as that they think it's interesting and want to see it discussed. The GP comment probably wouldn't have been downvoted if it had been more substantive. It's a bit hard to read where it's coming from, "this is such a defeated mindset" has a touch of name-calling about it (which is against the site guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html), "you're welcome to it all you want" has a touch of personal attack about it, and "some of us aren't willing to settle" would make a fine opening for saying more—like what that means, and why, and above all, sharing some of the experience that has led to that position—but it doesn't make a good closing for a one-liner.
    - BoorishBears 6y ago
      My question wasn't sarcastic, I really wonder how many did so. I'm not saying the majority of people did, but even based on the replies to the comment, the answer is more than 0, it'd be interesting/amusing to know how many did (even though that's impossible) > The GP comment probably wouldn't have been downvoted if it had been more substantive. My 700 word reply with the same sentiment was at -1 within seconds. It only just got back to 1. Now, I didn't write that to be popular, it's an intentionally uncomfortable comment if you're someone who agrees with the top level comment and I wanted it to be. The fact is, the audience here has shown time and time again they'd rather bury talk about uncomfortable conflict involving race. Imagine this comment was downvoted, but multiple comment chains saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and "move on" are being propped up above it... This isn't the first time I've seen this here, and it won't be the last. At the end of the day, HN's demographic reflects the demographics of the industries it intersects, and diversity is not high at all within them. That allows people to bury their heads in the sand so to speak, these are uncomfortable conversations and they'd rather not have them
Ar-Curunir 6y ago
? I don’t see why we shouldn’t fight to change all these things. None of these is inherently part of the human condition, especially not in a world that has enough to satisfy the needs of everyone.
splintercell 6y ago
> So many times I am asked what I think of all this as a black person in tech. I don't think anything of it. It simply is how things are. Have you ever wondered that being born into a system where odds are stacked against you might be a strength for you? Not for everyone in the group, but for you.

cal5k 6y ago

Well said. I'm not black, but I always frame it this way when I think about the problem: if I had children, what message would I want to convey to them to maximize their chances of success in life? Life is difficult, there are lots of injustices in the world, but there is zero sense obsessing over that which you cannot control. Focus on being the best human possible and the world will take notice.

gns24 6y ago
So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on? If people can, good for them. If not, I don't feel in any position to tell people that obsessing over injustices that I'm not experiencing makes zero sense.
- aphextron 6y ago
  >"So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on?" What is the alternative? That's the point. I, as a single individual, can't spend my extremely finite time and resources howling at the moon and railing against a monolithic machine that cares nothing for justice or humanity. I can only try to live my life as effectively as possible within the bounds of our current reality. The civil rights movement won us equality under the law. But expecting the same tactics to result in social equality is a pipe dream.
  - munchbunny 6y ago
    > But expecting the same tactics to result in social equality is a pipe dream. Someone had to try, and someone has to try. Same tactics, or different tactics, whatever. Try things, do more of what works. We have to split our time between ourselves and our communities. Growing up as an immigrant Chinese person, "life is unfair, so you have to try harder than the white person" was what I was taught and what I did. It worked for my parents, to an incomplete extent, and it worked for my cohort of immigrants/ABC's, to a somewhat greater extent. However, that same community today is wrestling with the problem that without unified political action in local/state/national politics, it won't get much better than being a model minority, which is to say it's a more privileged existence than being black is (sorry for the bluntness), but you're still acutely aware of your Asian-ness in other people's eyes and when it works against you, such as being co-opted into the message of "well why don't [minority group] just work harder like [model minority group]?" as a distraction from actually talking about addressing root causes.
    - RcouF1uZ4gsC 6y ago
      > it won't get much better than being a model minority, which is to say it's a more privileged existence than being black is (sorry for the bluntness), As an Asian, I actually think that Asians are more privileged than White people. As a group we earn more, have better life expectancy, and have to deal with less historical baggage. If you search for it, any group can find areas where they feel they are being mistreated, but on the whole, your parents’ strategy has succeeded spectacularly. I think this is in part, because it was a win-win strategy. We were able to make our lives better without making another race feel bad or making their lives worse. Nobody had to lose for us to win.
      - ithinkinstereo 6y ago
        What? No, Asians are definitely not more privileged than Whites (in western society). You're conflating socioeconomics with race. And how do Asians have less historical baggage? Many Asian countries have a history of being colonialized and being exploited.
      - 6y ago
- kaitai 6y ago
  To try to make more explicit a point I tried to approach earlier: A Black person can't just crucify themselves over injustice in the world and thus fail to get all their own mission done and expect it to accomplish what was desired. Going back to mathematics, my own original world, I saw Black mathematicians being overloaded with mentorship responsibilities and education responsibilities and speaking responsibilities and recruitment responsibilities and and and, and oh yeah the research they're actually evaluated on! So this great mathematician spends all her time in the committees and recruitment and teaching classes and organizing outreach... and then fails to get tenure because her publication record isn't strong enough (only three papers! and with collaborators, so she probably didn't do the work, right, she's doing so much else how could she have had the time?), and then has to look for another job. While the white guy who didn't do any education or recruitment or outreach published five crappy papers (with collaborators) and got tenure. That Black mathematician's responsibility is her own survival and success. Her own survival and success is more valuable to the world than teaching freshman calculus this year, because if she gets tenure, she can teach freshman calc another year. "I don't live in a world where fairness is an option," is a fair statement. If she tries to change it alone, she fails and burns out. What was the benefit of that? What was the gain? So the rest of us (for any given value of 'us') ought to step up.
  - idjango 6y ago
    I'd step in as black guy coming from what I'd qualify as a priviledged background in Africa. So I don't think I can really understand the issues for black communities in America. But in my opinion, what is lacking for black communities is usually a global community strategy that free individuals energy by showing some beaten track they can easily use to reach the position people before them reached and build over this to move higher. Sometimes I have the feeling that black people fight the wrong fight. You can't ask for change without power and in today world it means capital. Black as a "race" is more than 1 billion individuals that's enough to foster anything important for the community as a whole. I don't know for the US but for France very few black people support black initiatives. They usual answer is that they'll do it when they earn more but we all know that money is never enough... In a world where your real voting power is your dollars this can't work. Asians understood this maybe instinctively. You have to build a working community first (paths for education, culture, jobs, households...) so that any average black person get a "good environment" to nurture its growth so he can become a good, balanced, caring adult. The strategy so far was to publicly and politically fight (which is good) but after each protest the individuals are back to their own struggles with little to no help or care from other black people (again as a community). If everyone cares only for it's own issues it won't work. Our role is to educate young black people. Tell them how the world is but also show them that they have a functional place in it and that they can start to build it from elementary school!
- stronglikedan 6y ago
  > black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on That's exactly what's being said to white people right now, and as a white person, I don't think that any race should accept it. The current dilemma is that apparently not accepting racism towards white people, as a white person, seems to make me racist somehow. Go figure.
- munchbunny 6y ago
  > So you're basically saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and move on? Personal opinion: yes, but also no. I think this is a false dichotomy. As an individual, day to day, what can you do about the systemic issues? Not much. Maybe confront someone every now and then to improve things for a friend or coworker. But, for yourself, the only thing you can do is to accept that you have a shitty hand and do the best you can with it. The hand you have is the hand you have, arguing that it should be better won't make it better. However, year by year, the reality is that there is a systemic problem, and when a whole population all have a shitty hand to play, statistically you're going to expect worse outcomes. If you let yourself get crushed by the weight of the systemic issues, you're not going to be in any condition to help others, but if you don't do anything about the systemic problem, then future success stories of people like you will continue to be statistical anomalies. So take care of yourself, and then try your best to help the people that come after you.
  - tomjakubowski 6y ago
    > As an individual, day to day, what can you do about the systemic issues? Not much. This is precisely why activists organize groups of people: so that they may act together and stand a chance of effecting change. Historically, with large enough organization, it has worked pretty well at times.
    - munchbunny 6y ago
      I completely agree, and I'm grateful there are activists to organize these efforts. Since this is such a sensitive topic, I think I need to elaborate a bit more on the individual vs. systemic perspective. When I was growing up, I was told that the game is rigged against me, and I was going to have to dig deep. I had to make peace with the idea that, for example, I needed better SAT scores for the same college applications. (I didn't pick the example for its severity, I picked it because it's a measured phenomenon.) That's just the reality of racism/sexism/ageism/whatever. That's the individual perspective: game's rigged against you, deal with it. But where this line of thinking becomes racist is when, for example, one of the Chinese immigrant parents in my community asks "why don't black people just work harder?" How do you know how hard they work? If it was just about working harder, the problem would be solved by now. In that case saying that black people should work harder comes from a place of ignorance of the real problems, which proves the point that it's important to make noise about systemic problems. That's the systemic perspective. I don't think either point has to invalidate the other, but I've personally experienced both people saying "work harder" as a form of victim-blaming out of ignorance as well as people blaming personal failings on the system holding them down, and everything in between including real role models who are just venting. So I tend to just keep my mouth shut about it in my personal life.
- cal5k 6y ago
  Nope. I'm saying that if I had children, I'd tell them the above. I'd argue it's ultimately a much more effective way to combat racism/bigotry/whatever, unless you accept the Critical Race Theory definition of racism, which I do not. The military is probably the best evidence that this works. They take black, white, hispanic, and Asian Americans and put them through rigorous training together. In the end, nobody gives a crap what the other people look like or where they came from - they're your brothers and sisters and you trust them with your life. Dehumanizing people, calling them out, invoking the mob, getting people fired... these are all tactics that are doomed to stoke animosity, not reduce it.
- manfredo 6y ago
  I think they're using "accept" to convey "come to terms with the fact that it exists" not accepting it as an inevitable part of society. You can accept that racism exists, but still actively try to mitigate or reduce it.
karpierz 6y ago
I'm sure Nelson Mandela, MLK, and Rosa Parks really would've done well with this advice.
- klyrs 6y ago
  Nelson Mandela spent years in prison; MLK was assassinated. It is not every single black person's job to be on the front lines. That's not only completely unsustainable, but it's also ok for black children dream of being a doctor, programmer, VC, whathaveyou, without demanding that they also be martyrs for a cause that's entirely out of their hands. The point I glean from OC is that he can't do the work. He can't stop people from being racist. That's not only not his job, it's also an impossible task. The people who need to do the work are the people who are making conscious or unconscious biased choices which disproportionately impact black lives. It's not up to black people. It's up to everybody else to do that work.
  - mbesto 6y ago
    > It is not every single black person's job to be on the front lines. Sure, but if everyone has this attitude then the collective group suffers. e.g. bandwagon bias, and thus the individual suffers as a result. > It's not up to black people. It's up to everybody else to do that work. Sure, and clearly whats happening right now is that people who are not marginalized (e.g. white people) are learning what is required to do the "work". That doesn't happen without the activists showing up and saying "hey white people, educate yourselves, read XYZ". > it's also ok for black children dream of being a doctor, programmer, VC, whathaveyou, without demanding that they also be martyrs for a cause that's entirely out of their hands. I don't think anyone is suggesting that everyone has to be a martyr for a cause, just that (1) their existence is important and (2) if marginalized groups of people just accept status quo then there is little incentive for those martyrs to exist. > The point I glean from OC is that he can't do the work. Because he literally can't do it (handicapped?) or because they don't want to because it's risky? The point I lean from the OC is that he enjoys the luxuries of his life but is unwilling to fight for others who are similar. In the original article the VC basically says "I don't waste my energy on acknowledging racial biases on a day to day basis because I already know these exist". This is not the same as saying "I can't be a martyr". > That's not only not his job, it's also an impossible task. People don't get paid to fix civil rights, it's not a job. People have taken it upon themselves to answer that calling. I think it's fine to say "I don't believe it's my role in life to" but to pretend it's not required while still enjoying the benefits of those who do sacrifice themselves is an extremely selfish outlook on life. > The people who need to do the work are the people who are making conscious or unconscious biased choices which disproportionately impact black lives. And how do you propose those people fix that? Do they just wake up one day and say "ya know what I'm gonna stop giving into my unconscious bias"?

kaitai 6y ago

The strategies we use to optimize our own possibilities for success encompass one set of options (and what you say is pretty much what I think, too, about the 'woman in tech' issue). Then the strategies that will optimize success for groups are slightly different. For those of us who are not, say, Black entrepreneurs or VCs in tech, we should think about that second set of strategies if we are interested in improving the tech ecosystem. I'd argue that VCs probably have a responsibility/need to think about that second set of strategies because a VC's job is to build a network and ecosystem that ensures success for their investments. On an individual level (just again from my own experience) operating as if sexism doesn't exist, in general, and looking at each individual I have to deal with as an individual is optimal on a daily basis. But I do have to come up to 30000 feet now and then to strategize about the bigger picture -- sometimes to figure out how I fit in, sometimes to figure out what I might want to do to help others with their goals, sometimes to point out to a friend that what might cost me too much in the workplace would be easy for them to suggest. I'm not a VC, just a worker drone. Must be interesting to be on the investment side!

screye 6y ago
> The strategies we use to optimize our own possibilities for success encompass one set of options. Then the strategies that will optimize success for groups are slightly different. These are words to live life by. What works for the 'person' often does not work for the 'people'. Systemic inequalities only truly reveal themselves in statistics. Thus, an individual anecdote by a 'person' serves no purpose for a policy that's created for the 'people' what-so-ever. On the other hand though, those anecdotes are central to the 'person' and 'persons' who associate with them. Now, treating those same anecdotes with indifference can be catastrophic to your 'person'-al relationship. It's how as a country I encouraging STEM as a policy for the people is a great idea. However, pushing/incentivizing your own child towards STEM when they clearly want to do something else is not so great. As humans we need to compartmentalize the way we empathize, strategize and process emotions along the same lines of 'people' vs 'persons'.

BoorishBears 6y ago

> You can either live with that chip on your shoulder, or learn the skills to navigate life with the cards you were dealt and deal with it. There is no other option, and how you feel about it is irrelevant. Speak for yourself. I'm sure you'll get a lot of support for this point of view because it's the easy way out. (it's what white people love to hear to because that means "aha! this one gets it!") Throw your hands up, keep your chin up right? I don't roll over like this because it's not how I was raised. My parents came from less than poverty, my father all but lost a finger farming for pennies to cover school fees while his father drank away what little money they had in his home country. My mother didn't have parents to raise her, she came from a home where she was seen as a burden foisted upon her caretakers by familial obligation, and their wish for her was to be a seamstress Today they both hold doctorates, their siblings are doctors and nurses and engineers, all coming from the same backgrounds. I wasn't raised to roll over and tell myself "it's not under my control", that mentality wouldn't have gotten them where they are today, and it wouldn't have gotten me where I am today. - Fairness is always an option, the problem is it's expensive, it's hard work, it's humiliating sometimes, it's risky. When you're slighted and you feel it's because of the color of your skin, the moment you say something, you're painting a target on your back. Sometimes it means you have to walk away from opportunity. So some good little kids tell themselves it's not an option, they can't take that risk, they can't risk being the tall nail, or not grasping a opportunity they have just because it might be tainted with "unfairness". Maybe it's a privilege that my parents have passed onto me, putting my in a position where I could take those risks and stand tall, but I grasp on to it proudly, and it makes me stronger than those who can't to the same. I honestly don't have a problem with people who can't do the same, but trying to spread that brand of thinking is weak and shouldn't be done. It's a coping mechanism, it's not something to be paraded and shared as sound advice like your comment does. Against all of what defines them, I'm sure there were times where my parents had to swallow that strength and put up with "unfairness" (in fact, I know of it from them first hand), but by not changing themselves, and by not buying into the narrative that "it is what it is, it's the human condition", they were able to pass on that strength to me, and put me in a much better place than they would have otherwise I mean look _the whole passage_, the article is about a black man who is not buying "fairness is not an option" and yet you seem to have somehow picked out the counter-argument which is immediately torn down: > "I don't live in a world where fairness is an option," he said. "I am certain that over the time in my professional career there are things that have made it difficult as an African American. I have put so little time in acknowledging those instances because that's what I expected." > But that milieu may ultimately hurt venture's bottom line. > Gompers, who looked at the performance of venture portfolios that had more diverse teams, found they achieved better returns than homogenous teams. > "The importance of diversity is all about making better decisions," he said. "If you all look the same and have the same experiences, you are gonna make the same mistakes." People still don't get this, diversity's reward is not different amounts of melanin in the skin of the people sitting at a table. As long as people continue to make this basic misunderstanding, they will continue to fail to understand why diversity matters, and they will continue to feel as if it's needless feel good charity work. Diversity is different walks of life and different ways of thought that come with it. People still see taking people of different backgrounds as some sort of charity, they don't understand how much stronger they can be than competitors where every person in the room is a different shade of the same background.

rsynnott 6y ago

> But we should also live in a world without war, poverty, and disease as well. It's a part of the human condition. As a, er, planet, we've actually done fairly well at easing those over the last century, tho. Sure, they're not gone, and maybe they'll never be gone, but improvements can be made, and it's probably not helpful to treat them, or racism, as laws of nature. I do think there's a perception problem, though. Basically no-one would claim that disease or poverty aren't problems anymore, but there are a surprisingly large number of (mostly white, obviously) people who claim racism isn't a problem anymore.

beepboopbeep 6y ago

This is such a defeated mindset. You're welcome to it all you want, but some of us aren't willing to settle.

BoorishBears 6y ago
It's telling that what you said is such an unpopular sentiment when the article is literally about those of us who won't settle. I wonder how many people are reading this person's quote and assuming the angle of the article matches what they wanted to hear.
- dang 6y ago
  That sort of logic doesn't work in cases like this, and it leads to a lot of misperceptions. The readership (and votership) is a large statistical cloud, with wide variance of views and feelings and assumptions. It's not only natural but inevitable that some take one angle and some take another. The people who upvoted this article are likely to have done so for straightforward reasons, such as that they think it's interesting and want to see it discussed. The GP comment probably wouldn't have been downvoted if it had been more substantive. It's a bit hard to read where it's coming from, "this is such a defeated mindset" has a touch of name-calling about it (which is against the site guidelines: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html), "you're welcome to it all you want" has a touch of personal attack about it, and "some of us aren't willing to settle" would make a fine opening for saying more—like what that means, and why, and above all, sharing some of the experience that has led to that position—but it doesn't make a good closing for a one-liner.
  - BoorishBears 6y ago
    My question wasn't sarcastic, I really wonder how many did so. I'm not saying the majority of people did, but even based on the replies to the comment, the answer is more than 0, it'd be interesting/amusing to know how many did (even though that's impossible) > The GP comment probably wouldn't have been downvoted if it had been more substantive. My 700 word reply with the same sentiment was at -1 within seconds. It only just got back to 1. Now, I didn't write that to be popular, it's an intentionally uncomfortable comment if you're someone who agrees with the top level comment and I wanted it to be. The fact is, the audience here has shown time and time again they'd rather bury talk about uncomfortable conflict involving race. Imagine this comment was downvoted, but multiple comment chains saying black people should just accept racism is a thing and "move on" are being propped up above it... This isn't the first time I've seen this here, and it won't be the last. At the end of the day, HN's demographic reflects the demographics of the industries it intersects, and diversity is not high at all within them. That allows people to bury their heads in the sand so to speak, these are uncomfortable conversations and they'd rather not have them

Ar-Curunir 6y ago

? I don’t see why we shouldn’t fight to change all these things. None of these is inherently part of the human condition, especially not in a world that has enough to satisfy the needs of everyone.

splintercell 6y ago

> So many times I am asked what I think of all this as a black person in tech. I don't think anything of it. It simply is how things are. Have you ever wondered that being born into a system where odds are stacked against you might be a strength for you? Not for everyone in the group, but for you.