Apparently deep inside you consider your needs to be less important than other people's and equate your, well, survival with approval from others. An interesti

Apparently deep inside you consider your needs to be less important than other people's and equate your, well, survival with approval from others. An interesting thing about motivation is that if you start looking into it you may realize that you may not need it. First, motivation doesn't do any real work, it only prods you toward doing it. To achieve that it creates an emotional tension between "now" and "then" that is supposed to push you toward the goal. Is this tension really helpful? Could it push you too hard? Could it instead stiffen you if things do not go according to plan? And what is the drive behind it? Isn't it fear? And doesn't the tension takes extra energy you may otherwise use? The time spent to develop motivation to do something is time spent not doing that something.