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I always read here and there people commenting about certain tips not working well on their own procrastination issues. My experience is no different. Some mon

by myth2018 6y ago

I always read here and there people commenting about certain tips not working well on their own procrastination issues. My experience is no different. Some months ago I wrote about how procrastination had harmed my life. I was going through a lot. Thankfully, things have hugely improved since then. Step by step, I'm getting my life together. Way before my ex-wife left me, I had been reading some books on the subject. I had already identified the emotional nature of my procrastination, but I was still struggling to find a solution. If I could give one advice to people who are facing very bad cases of procrastination, that would be: if you have the chance, get some psychotherapy. That was instrumental in my recovering. My case had a complex emotional background. The extreme pressure I was putting over myself. The insanely huge goals I had established. My inclination to define my own value as a person based solely on my intellectual accomplishments. Everything mixed together. Overwhelming. Don't get me wrong, the books helped. But mine was too complex a case and some personalized advice was needed.

dundercoder 6y ago
Honestly, I expect most are in this same boat. Humans are very complex at best, and the outside perspective a therapist can offer is hard to overestimate.
WhompingWindows 6y ago
"The extreme pressure I was putting over myself. The insanely huge goals I had established. My inclination to define my own value as a person based solely on my intellectual accomplishments. Everything mixed together. Overwhelming." Thank you for writing, this really jives with my experience. I would read HN or various articles or do "fun" work to get dopamine hits, but the reality my psychotherapist revealed was that I internalized a lot of external pressures/expectations to do X Y Z in my career. It led to me resigning my job as an SQL/R programmer in February...bright-eyed looking for the next position... And now I'm unemployed, so things are going super.
- myth2018 6y ago
  Thanks for sharing this. I'm glad that you looked for a therapy. We are all going through tough times regarding jobs and economy, but I'm pretty sure you'll be OK. Stay safe and don't let the present times let you down, things are going to be normal again soon.

dundercoder 6y ago

Honestly, I expect most are in this same boat. Humans are very complex at best, and the outside perspective a therapist can offer is hard to overestimate.

WhompingWindows 6y ago

"The extreme pressure I was putting over myself. The insanely huge goals I had established. My inclination to define my own value as a person based solely on my intellectual accomplishments. Everything mixed together. Overwhelming." Thank you for writing, this really jives with my experience. I would read HN or various articles or do "fun" work to get dopamine hits, but the reality my psychotherapist revealed was that I internalized a lot of external pressures/expectations to do X Y Z in my career. It led to me resigning my job as an SQL/R programmer in February...bright-eyed looking for the next position... And now I'm unemployed, so things are going super.

myth2018 6y ago
Thanks for sharing this. I'm glad that you looked for a therapy. We are all going through tough times regarding jobs and economy, but I'm pretty sure you'll be OK. Stay safe and don't let the present times let you down, things are going to be normal again soon.