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Have to check out the OkCupid stuff. Thanks for the tip! > the simple fact that Tinder and most of online dating is basically a looks based popularity contest
by koonsolo 6y ago
Have to check out the OkCupid stuff. Thanks for the tip!
> the simple fact that Tinder and most of online dating is basically a looks based popularity contest hints at a problem for the median folks.
Why would you think real life would be any different?
There are a lot of parameters in the dating game, bug if played right, you can definitely find success on these platforms.
Best example is one of my wife's customers: a 50 year old, average looking woman, who has success on Tinder. No kidding!
- pas 6y agoIRL you have more than looks, more than one (at best two) static pictures. Plus online dating is very passive. There is no chance to hear someone's voice, to flirting with someone, to make them laugh. (Sure, there are online similars to them, but they are far from equivalents.) For starters IRL you rarely have the density of "encounters" that you have on Tinder, so you have a lot more resources invested in meeting people, this likely increases how much time you spend on one person at a time. Regarding the 50 year old women. She has success on Tinder? Why is that no kidding? Or you have left out a "no"?
- koonsolo 6y ago> Plus online dating is very passive... Like you say, it is impossible. I made that mistake when I started, until I realized that there is only 1 goal: get her on a date. And while other guys were asking "how was your day?" every few days, I asked them out after a good chat, and shortcutted it.