I'm sorry, I'm still not getting the disagreement unless you are thinking that the discussion is meant to be only about casual sex or that sex doesn't happen be

I'm sorry, I'm still not getting the disagreement unless you are thinking that the discussion is meant to be only about casual sex or that sex doesn't happen between people who are dating. I checked the original article and it doesn't differentiate. So, that's why I think it's more likely that we are actually in agreement. Yes, I agree, it seems like many of the people complaining here and also in the research aren't putting themselves in a position to get turned down at all. (Or if they are it's in some minimal way like putting a profile on Tinder and not being very active).