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Great. I guarantee you are 100x closer to figuring out your love life than anyone here talking about wealth, looks or status. I don't want to be a love coach.
by tonystubblebine 6y ago
Great. I guarantee you are 100x closer to figuring out your love life than anyone here talking about wealth, looks or status.
I don't want to be a love coach. But how are you with making an ask? Do you ever use clear language like, "Would you like to go on a date?" or if you're on a date, "Would you like to hold hands?" "Can I kiss you?"
She's on a date for a reason too. And if the answer is no, then congratulations on sorting a person from the unknown bucket into the no-romantic-interest bucket. If they say no, accept the answer respectfully and move on.
- dingaling 6y ago> But how are you with making an ask? Sure, encourage him. But also coach him for the inevitable "I don't think of you like that" response. Extra points if she adds "you're too good a friend". Categorisation into the Friend Zone happens within minutes of first meeting. There's no way out of that box.
- tonystubblebine 6y agoA lot of people in this thread are talking about impossible standards of wealth and looks and being in the top 20% of men or higher. But not enough people are talking about this standard. Can you ask a woman out without making her feel scared? I think your fear often comes across as dangerous. So, ok, fine. Asking women out is scary. I was young, I remember that. But if you never ask anyone out what are you really complaining about. And if all you ever did was ask one person out, get rejected, and then you've been sulking about it every since, that's not any better. Hard is not the same thing as impossible. Hundreds of millions of men have figured this out.