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I don’t think that settling down with someone that isn’t sexually attracted to you enough is a recipe for a healthy relationship. On the plus side if you’re in

I don’t think that settling down with someone that isn’t sexually attracted to you enough is a recipe for a healthy relationship. On the plus side if you’re in your early 30’s and economically stable and well enough off for your area your get to experience life on easy mode. I got to experience that after my last brake up before I got fed up and went for something more stable and it was really an eye opening experience. I pretty much spent my whole 20’s in a single LTR that ended so I never had to experience Tinder before but it was a whole other experience.

nicoburns 6y ago
Isn't sexually attracted to you upon first meeting doesn't mean that they're not sexually attracted to you in the relationship.
- dogma1138 6y ago
  While it might be true, I’ve seen too many cases of infidelity and or dead bedrooms with relationships that didn’t had the former. Also speaking from my own experience while I’ve experienced finding women more attractive as I got to know them better it wasn’t the same type of an attraction, as it wasn’t sexual but rather more complex in terms of seeing long term future possibilities and wanting to share experiences with them in order to enrich my own life, but it never really affected how physically attractive I found them. Maybe I’m different, maybe men are different in general but at least for me I won’t settle for someone that doesn’t want to jump me or that I wouldn’t want to jump them to me it seems unnatural.
- armitron 6y ago
  Sexual attraction is multifaceted, but by far the strongest and most important/longest-living aspect regarding the strength of a relationship is the biological component which is for all intents and purposes instant and present from the very beginning. If that's absent, you're definitely stacking the deck against you in a major way. I am not saying an LTR can't work, but you'll be putting in substantially more energy, time and effort to make it happen. It's the difference between playing a game in easy vs nightmare mode. This is all based on empirical observations. I am 55 years old, I've had more than 100 sexual partners in my life and a lot of relationships, some of them lacking the initial biological/animalistic sexual attraction factor I described here. I've been married twice, now divorced and in a long-term relationship with my partner. I have two daughters in their 20s.

nicoburns 6y ago

Isn't sexually attracted to you upon first meeting doesn't mean that they're not sexually attracted to you in the relationship.

dogma1138 6y ago
While it might be true, I’ve seen too many cases of infidelity and or dead bedrooms with relationships that didn’t had the former. Also speaking from my own experience while I’ve experienced finding women more attractive as I got to know them better it wasn’t the same type of an attraction, as it wasn’t sexual but rather more complex in terms of seeing long term future possibilities and wanting to share experiences with them in order to enrich my own life, but it never really affected how physically attractive I found them. Maybe I’m different, maybe men are different in general but at least for me I won’t settle for someone that doesn’t want to jump me or that I wouldn’t want to jump them to me it seems unnatural.
armitron 6y ago
Sexual attraction is multifaceted, but by far the strongest and most important/longest-living aspect regarding the strength of a relationship is the biological component which is for all intents and purposes instant and present from the very beginning. If that's absent, you're definitely stacking the deck against you in a major way. I am not saying an LTR can't work, but you'll be putting in substantially more energy, time and effort to make it happen. It's the difference between playing a game in easy vs nightmare mode. This is all based on empirical observations. I am 55 years old, I've had more than 100 sexual partners in my life and a lot of relationships, some of them lacking the initial biological/animalistic sexual attraction factor I described here. I've been married twice, now divorced and in a long-term relationship with my partner. I have two daughters in their 20s.