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I am curious, as you approach a door with a woman, do you open the door for her and let her through first or it's a matter of who get to the door first goes fir
by mmsimanga 6y ago
I am curious, as you approach a door with a woman, do you open the door for her and let her through first or it's a matter of who get to the door first goes first? Is it saying the words that is weird or the action of letting ladies go first that is weird?
I am in my forties and let the ladies go first.
- bobthepanda 6y agoAs a young person, I just open doors for everyone, because it's a nice thing to do. There's no reason to restrict nice things to people based on gender and it can be viewed as patronizing to do so.
- mmsimanga 6y agoAh but my question was specific to ladies. You didn't have enough information from my answer to conclude I only open the door for ladies. I open doors for men too.
- bobthepanda 6y agoWhy does the question have to be specific to ladies? The answer isn't.
- mmsimanga 6y agoIf you read the grandfather comment. He specifically says he finds saying "ladies first" weird. If he has said he found saying "men first" weird I would have asked specifically about men.
- vzidex 6y agoEchoing what bobthepanda also replied - I hold the door open for _everyone_ when it makes sense for me to do so. It becomes weird when you specifically do it for women, or say words indicating that you're doing it because she's a woman - it comes across as patronizing, in my opinion.
- empthought 6y agoThe person who holds the door is the one that arrives first, or has a more convenient angle on holding the door open.