I have noticed the opposite. My impression is that most people's identities are so coloured by their insecurities that people usually come together more on bein

I have noticed the opposite. My impression is that most people's identities are so coloured by their insecurities that people usually come together more on being able to laugh at their common insufficiencies and also on the things they hate in common. But this is perhaps because I'm still relatively young and the people I encounter are still working on realizing themselves.