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To perhaps state the obvious, the reason we don't encourage people to say that they're good at things is that it's hard to judge for yourself. It has as much to
by thenoblesunfish 6y ago
To perhaps state the obvious, the reason we don't encourage people to say that they're good at things is that it's hard to judge for yourself. It has as much to do with your general view on yourself, and what your standard of "good" is, than what the average other person would think. So, you try to prove you are good by doing things, not saying things.
- Godel_unicode 6y agoI have worked with people who could say they were good at things without sounding arrogant, and after a great deal of thought I have concluded that it's because of two things. 1. those same people are quick to say when they're bad at things as well. 2. their competency is never the point of the sentence, it's always a supporting argument on the way to the point. E.g. I'm an expert in this library and I struggle with using that part correctly, we should consider reworking it so it's possible for novices to use it.
- themacguffinman 6y ago3. Express it in terms of experience, which is a quality that I think people are more comfortable with because it doesn't imply innate or "fixed" talent. Experience is widely understood as a function of time & effort so people feel less insecure about it because everyone can gain experience. Eg. I would say "I'm pretty familiar with this library, so here's my perspective"