> attempt to de-escalate. "I know that I just kicked down your door in the dead of night guns draw to gain the element of surprise because I anticipated or wa

> attempt to de-escalate. "I know that I just kicked down your door in the dead of night guns draw to gain the element of surprise because I anticipated or wanted an altercation but now that I know you have a gun and are actively trying to kill me, I'd like to ask you to calm down."