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That is true for either definition of position ;) I subscribe to the theory from How I Met Your Mother - there's always a settler and a reacher in a relationsh

• bananamerica 6y ago
  When I was young my cousin told me he envied me because I was smarter (in his view) and spent my days inside the house reading books. I, on the other hand, envied his good looks, charisma, popularity and athleticism. I never had a romantic relationship with my cousin (:P), but I like to think they work similarly. It’s not that one must be in a superior position, but each partner must recognize some value in the other that they do not possess themselves.
  • sk0g 6y ago
    Not that it's something I'm proud of, but when I had worse mental health, I hung on to a few partners just for the sake of being less lonely, and to make up for the lack of support network through family, etc. Relationships are interesting in that sense - I've seen more relationships where the two balance each other out, instead of being particularly similar (interests, personal traits, etc). I mean, it makes sense! If I'm after company, I'd want someone who makes me do things I wouldn't normally. Easier to maintain a balance between together and alone time this way too, if you have a not-too-big overlap in interests.