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I'm going to go out of my way to apologize, as my original reply to you was probably a bit snarkier than called for. At the time, I thought it warranted, becau

I'm going to go out of my way to apologize, as my original reply to you was probably a bit snarkier than called for. At the time, I thought it warranted, because my misinterpretation of your comment (of what I thought the most likely meaning of it was, that is) lead me to view it as fairly snarky itself, when it doesn't appear that accurate, and I intended to lightly reflect that in a way I hoped would illuminate what I saw as the problem with that approach. Obviously, that doesn't make much sense if that wasn't what you were doing. That said, I do think some of my criticisms hold weight. That is, that there wasn't enough actual content from you in your message to easily discern what you were trying to accomplish. I don't think I was the only one in that position. I did attempt to ask you what you meant, and that was genuine, I just also included my reply for what I thought he most likely purpose, which turned out to be incorrect. I'm not sure if you took that as sarcasm, or as a method to bait you, but it wasn't. Here's to hoping we both come away from this slightly better than we entered, and with little or no resentment. :)

coffee 6y ago
> Here's to hoping we both come away from this slightly better than we entered That's very funny to me :-) > my original reply to you was probably a bit snarkier than called for > At the time, I thought it warranted > my misinterpretation of your comment > what I thought the most likely meaning of it was > and I intended to lightly reflect that in a way I hoped would illuminate what I saw as the problem with that approach Wow. I quoted a few sentences that were painful to me, and out of that came all of this? A snarky reply, that you felt was warranted, followed up by you trying to educate (illuminate) me on why you saw it as a problem. Throwing in some "social proof" for why all of that was okay: > I don't think I was the only one in that position Along with justifying most of your approach: > That said, I do think some of my criticisms hold weight. > there wasn't enough actual content from you > to easily discern what you were trying to accomplish Emphasizing how big of a person you truly are by putting in extra effort: > I'm going to go out of my way to apologize
- kbenson 6y ago
  > Throwing in some "social proof" for why all of that was okay: More just to explain what led to it, but you can interpret it how you like. > Emphasizing how big of a person you truly are by putting in extra effort: Actually, just trying to live up to the standard I set for myself, but don't always achieve. I chose an idiom that might have implied something I didn't intend. By "going out of my way" I was really just referring to how I was replying to myself, and not waiting for your reply to me, so try to short circuit that wait, and express my feelings even if you chose not to reply but still felt negatively about the exchange. It is possible to apologize for how you did something, but not for why. This isn't some attempt and stealing a "win" in an argument through meta-analysis, it was just me deciding I had been uncharitable, and deciding to do something about it. I'm sorry it sounds like you couldn't accept this in the spirit it was meant. It's probably not productive for us to continue further on this topic. I hope you have a good night.

coffee 6y ago

> Here's to hoping we both come away from this slightly better than we entered That's very funny to me :-) > my original reply to you was probably a bit snarkier than called for > At the time, I thought it warranted > my misinterpretation of your comment > what I thought the most likely meaning of it was > and I intended to lightly reflect that in a way I hoped would illuminate what I saw as the problem with that approach Wow. I quoted a few sentences that were painful to me, and out of that came all of this? A snarky reply, that you felt was warranted, followed up by you trying to educate (illuminate) me on why you saw it as a problem. Throwing in some "social proof" for why all of that was okay: > I don't think I was the only one in that position Along with justifying most of your approach: > That said, I do think some of my criticisms hold weight. > there wasn't enough actual content from you > to easily discern what you were trying to accomplish Emphasizing how big of a person you truly are by putting in extra effort: > I'm going to go out of my way to apologize

kbenson 6y ago
> Throwing in some "social proof" for why all of that was okay: More just to explain what led to it, but you can interpret it how you like. > Emphasizing how big of a person you truly are by putting in extra effort: Actually, just trying to live up to the standard I set for myself, but don't always achieve. I chose an idiom that might have implied something I didn't intend. By "going out of my way" I was really just referring to how I was replying to myself, and not waiting for your reply to me, so try to short circuit that wait, and express my feelings even if you chose not to reply but still felt negatively about the exchange. It is possible to apologize for how you did something, but not for why. This isn't some attempt and stealing a "win" in an argument through meta-analysis, it was just me deciding I had been uncharitable, and deciding to do something about it. I'm sorry it sounds like you couldn't accept this in the spirit it was meant. It's probably not productive for us to continue further on this topic. I hope you have a good night.