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> without consent or after a request to stop. Hugging someone after they tell you to stop is obviously creepy. Is hugging someone without asking permission fir

• michaelmrose 6y ago
  Presumably actually hugging someone is subject to societal, cultural, interpersonal norms. People at least try to discern in which situations and for which people its likely OK to initiate a hug. Then you watch how people react and modify your behavior accordingly. If you mistakenly thought it was OK and instead of warmth you perceive discomfort or a deer in the headlights look you would abort. If in doubt just don't do it or ask. In real context this complexity is simplified by the presence of social cues, body language, facial expressions, the fact that more people are apt to share the same set of social norms. None of these things are available in text. Fortunately typing hug at someone doesn't involve actually touching their body. It provides basically none of the meaningful benefits of actually hugging someone. No real social closeness. No actual meaningful comfort. It also provides none of the risks to the persons safety or their person. This is probably why typing 'hug' is the providence of 12 year old girls and including it in a code of conduct makes projects the subject of ridicule.