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He said something along the lines of "I'm very sorry for my friends rude behavior. Nobody should should act like that". I think the angel investor got the point

He said something along the lines of "I'm very sorry for my friends rude behavior. Nobody should should act like that". I think the angel investor got the point.

jschuur 16y ago
Too subtle. Easy for him to think it's fine to treat a waitress that way and that he can still function with 'real people'. He needed to be reminded that this is a sign of a fundamental character flaw. Not to rub it in, but on the chance that this might lead him to redemption.
bjelkeman-again 16y ago
@jschuur Don't you think the investor will take the easy way out and not shout at people when discussing investments, but not actually change as a person? I think these type of behaviors are deeply set. They can be changed, but I think it is more likely that the investor learns to be more subtle when discussing with an investment target, rather than actually becoming a nicer person, which requires a real change of character.
- jschuur 16y ago
  I agree that this points to deeply rooted a deeply rooted mindset and behavioral issues. At the same time though, this is an opportunity to do the right thing and attempt to show the guy that this is a fundamental and not compartmentalized problem he has (not that I'm criticizing the entrepreneur here). Maybe, over time, this will resonate with him, when he sees other people's reactions when this happens again. If not, you've done all you could.
  - Dylanlacey 16y ago
    Exactly. Doing nothing because "It won't help" is tacit acceptance. Only by slowly wearing away at the behavior can you change it, but you still need to try.
- waqf 16y ago
  If the investor hasn't learned these things before now, there are good reasons to suspect he won't change overnight. Even if he thinks it over, he may do a cost-benefit analysis and come to the conclusion that for him, personally, it works out better to shout at the waitress. Possibly because the coffee really is that important to him. Possibly because it weeds out business partners who don't like his style.

He said something along the lines of "I'm very sorry for my friends rude behavior. Nobody should should act like that". I think the angel investor got the point.

jschuur 16y ago

Too subtle. Easy for him to think it's fine to treat a waitress that way and that he can still function with 'real people'. He needed to be reminded that this is a sign of a fundamental character flaw. Not to rub it in, but on the chance that this might lead him to redemption.

bjelkeman-again 16y ago

@jschuur Don't you think the investor will take the easy way out and not shout at people when discussing investments, but not actually change as a person? I think these type of behaviors are deeply set. They can be changed, but I think it is more likely that the investor learns to be more subtle when discussing with an investment target, rather than actually becoming a nicer person, which requires a real change of character.

jschuur 16y ago
I agree that this points to deeply rooted a deeply rooted mindset and behavioral issues. At the same time though, this is an opportunity to do the right thing and attempt to show the guy that this is a fundamental and not compartmentalized problem he has (not that I'm criticizing the entrepreneur here). Maybe, over time, this will resonate with him, when he sees other people's reactions when this happens again. If not, you've done all you could.
- Dylanlacey 16y ago
  Exactly. Doing nothing because "It won't help" is tacit acceptance. Only by slowly wearing away at the behavior can you change it, but you still need to try.
waqf 16y ago
If the investor hasn't learned these things before now, there are good reasons to suspect he won't change overnight. Even if he thinks it over, he may do a cost-benefit analysis and come to the conclusion that for him, personally, it works out better to shout at the waitress. Possibly because the coffee really is that important to him. Possibly because it weeds out business partners who don't like his style.