Well, I don't know if they can. The analogy that comes to mind is that of an long-term abusive spouse: When you threaten to leave, they say they'll change, they

Well, I don't know if they can. The analogy that comes to mind is that of an long-term abusive spouse: When you threaten to leave, they say they'll change, they just need a little time and your help. Do you believe them?