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Once you've introduced the concept of "blame" for a situation it's hard to get out of it. It's unhealthy, IMO. Instead, I prefer to focus forward on what to do
by inanutshellus 6y ago
Once you've introduced the concept of "blame" for a situation it's hard to get out of it.
It's unhealthy, IMO. Instead, I prefer to focus forward on what to do next and how to avoid this particular issue again... and simply move on.
- tom-thistime 6y agoAgreed. It's also a distraction from doing work. (Sometimes a shockingly expensive distraction.)
- wool_gather 6y agoWell, you can't know how to avoid it until you know how you got into it. Which is one form of "blame" -- though I would agree it's more productive not to direct it at a person, and instead blame features of the situation.
- inanutshellus 6y agoYou're still putting the concept of "blame" into the water. Blaming in the context of a situation is called "an excuse", and it's still defensive. It's pretty nuanced after this though. If folk are defensive when a problem happens ("I don't know how this happened"="it wasn't me"), you have a blame culture. So how does one figure out what happened without someone jumping on the blame-sword (or run screaming from it)? I haven't quite figured out the answer to that question, but one thing that helps is only ask what happened if it's truly a mystery that must be solved. If it was human error, quietly move on.