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I've been on the other side : someone trying to renegociate a deal with me after having had (bad) legal counseling. It completely changes the tone of the conve

by bsaul 6y ago

I've been on the other side : someone trying to renegociate a deal with me after having had (bad) legal counseling. It completely changes the tone of the conversation, no matter what. A lawyer will gives you a list of all the things that could go wrong, and all the bad behavior your partner could have (because that's what he's used to seeing). This will have an impact on what you're going to tell the other person, and could really cripple the quality of the relationship. I believe talking to a lawyer should be done before signing anything after an oral agreement was found (just as a precaution), or if no agreement can be reached. Note: obviously my advice only applies if you already know the general best practices of an industry. If you feel like you know absolutely nothing, then ask people around you that had similar deals, people in the industry, etc, and maybe a lawyer, if he's really specialized in the IT business.

ChrisMarshallNY 6y ago
I completely agree. Lawyers have a naturally adversarial mindset. It's what they are paid for. The really good ones don't trust anyone; including close family. In my work, I quickly learned to keep lawyers out of the loop until the last reasonable moment, because they not only injected a lot of cynicism and negativity into the situation; they often would fire off an email that CC'd a C-suite person, instructing me to do things the way they said; thus escalating the thing from the start. That said, they are absolutely required for these types of things, especially if there are lawyers on the other side of the table.
- ethbro 6y ago
  I think most people think of lawyers as consigliere. Friends. People who will give you good advice. In reality, they're employed by you to legally protect you to the best of their ability. This means that (a) they view everything through the lense of "What should we do now, in order to have the best possible chance in court in a year?" (to the exclusion of things which might result in not ending up in court) & (b) they can be ordered to pursue another course of action. It's your ship, because it's your money. If you take your hand off the wheel, they're going to do their best given their perspective. But if you resolutely decide "Damn the torpedos", then they'll do their best with that too (shy of deciding not to work for you any longer).

by bsaul 6y ago

ChrisMarshallNY 6y ago

I completely agree. Lawyers have a naturally adversarial mindset. It's what they are paid for. The really good ones don't trust anyone; including close family. In my work, I quickly learned to keep lawyers out of the loop until the last reasonable moment, because they not only injected a lot of cynicism and negativity into the situation; they often would fire off an email that CC'd a C-suite person, instructing me to do things the way they said; thus escalating the thing from the start. That said, they are absolutely required for these types of things, especially if there are lawyers on the other side of the table.

ethbro 6y ago
I think most people think of lawyers as consigliere. Friends. People who will give you good advice. In reality, they're employed by you to legally protect you to the best of their ability. This means that (a) they view everything through the lense of "What should we do now, in order to have the best possible chance in court in a year?" (to the exclusion of things which might result in not ending up in court) & (b) they can be ordered to pursue another course of action. It's your ship, because it's your money. If you take your hand off the wheel, they're going to do their best given their perspective. But if you resolutely decide "Damn the torpedos", then they'll do their best with that too (shy of deciding not to work for you any longer).