Throughout most of my life I was an extrovert except I was frustrated that I didn't know how to bring new people into my life. And I also dealt with that nervo

Throughout most of my life I was an extrovert except I was frustrated that I didn't know how to bring new people into my life. And I also dealt with that nervousness of being a stranger in a room (bar, party, whatever)--then I discovered a few things that helped: 1) ask open ended questions 2) speak in the 'I' perspective... none of the "you know how it is when you do this"... "when I did this..." 3) take an interest in the other person; I made a goal to find out something special about the person in every conversation with someone new; taking an interest in the other person completely ignoring myself really made a difference.