My problem with the "no appropriation" argument is that it violates the golden rule (do unto others...) If I am over here doing something on my own, why should

My problem with the "no appropriation" argument is that it violates the golden rule (do unto others...) If I am over here doing something on my own, why should anyone be able to tell me I am doing it wrong? Doing that is corrective in a way that ignores individual experience and stiffles someone else's expression - for the sake of an individual's feelings not being hurt. And an action that hurts your feelings might be shrugged off by someone else, yet every member of a marginalized group has this innate right to "set the rules of engagement" when talking to anyone outside their group. I think that is ridiculous. You can talk to your own experience, you can educate others about your views, you can try to broaden what people consider normal and natural or tell them why actions come across as shitty to you, but telling people they are violating your rules is simply an inversion of the power dynamics. It may make you feel good but it doesn't help anyone understand you better or feel closer to you. What we need is fewer boundaries and more curiosity, not stronger distinctions between people. Censorship is not the way to understanding.