I agree. In manner of response to the very agitated repliers: I'm not saying that sharing fault is something to be ashamed of. I'm not also morally condemning

I agree. In manner of response to the very agitated repliers: I'm not saying that sharing fault is something to be ashamed of. I'm not also morally condemning my parents for lying to me, keeping me away from nice things and generally failing to teach me everything they should have known. I'm not going to condemn anyone for trying to make a relationship work and then recognizing it failed. Maybe you failed. Maybe you had poor judgement. Whatever. It failed. It is partly my fault that me and my wife are still together. I'm proud of that. I'll still be proud of that when she leaves me in 10 years. And I have been sharing the guilt. I'm not big on the 'you can always see it coming' argument. I think there is always a reason person X wants to break up. And that reason must have something to do with person Y as well, otherwise, why break up?