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I'm Dutch. I used to believe, like Dutch people tell themselves, that we are direct and honest. Then I met some foreigners, who said we are just blunt, which of
by brnt 6y ago
I'm Dutch. I used to believe, like Dutch people tell themselves, that we are direct and honest. Then I met some foreigners, who said we are just blunt, which of course I could only take as evidence for the fact that not everywhere honesty is valued. Then I moved abroad, learned a lot, among which that indeed the Dutch are mostly just blunt. I try my best to me direct and also the most friendly self I can be, these are not at all at odds and when they seem that way you're probably just ones of those people who mixes up direct and bluntness. Being dirdctthe friednly way works better (positive attitude is infectious), feels better, is better.
Most people proud of their directness are simply blunt ogres and proud of that, in my experience. Took me a while to discover that I can do better.
- yomly 6y agoDon't change! I somehow find every Dutch person I meet to be hilarious
- brnt 6y agoNot sure if that is a compliment or an insult ;)
- woodandsteel 6y agoCould you explain what is the difference between being direct and being blunt?
- brnt 6y agoBlunt is somewhere between direct and bullish. When you're a bit too eager to be direct, a bit too happy to give someone your unsalted opinion, like to step on or over peoples comfort zones perhaps a bit too much, a bit too proud of yourself for not being sensitive at all. It can be subtle, it can be clear as day, but the pattern is 'I'm telling it like it is' attitude without considering anything else. Turns our you very often can consider something else while being direct.
- woodandsteel 6y agoThank you for the reply.