I can agree with that. I think it all depends on the person and only someone who deeply knows them can give them the right advice. And that CAN in some cases be

I can agree with that. I think it all depends on the person and only someone who deeply knows them can give them the right advice. And that CAN in some cases be a harsh one, if all their life they were coddled, it can be good to hear a stern voice that tells them that they are shit right now, a disgrace of their species, but they have the power to change etc. This is indeed the strategy of some gurus or even clinicians (perhaps with different words). In other cases you just listen, you just nourish, just hug and radiate love and they can, over the years, perhaps open up as a flower and work their way through their issues. If done in the wrong way around, the person may just get crushed under the weight of it all, while in the other case they may grow comfortable in all the coddling and now won't even want to fix things, because "having issues" is what gets them all the hugs and kisses. Some respond more to rational reasoning, some to emotional ones. There is no general recipe.