We have twins in elementary/primary school--anything I say is couched on that reality. We found that having them sleep through the night, go to the bathroom in

We have twins in elementary/primary school--anything I say is couched on that reality. We found that having them sleep through the night, go to the bathroom in middle of night by themselves, and wake up themselves, freed some energy. They also are in bed asleep before 8:30, which frees some time. The primary issue for us in terms of "free time" is the quality of the free time. It happens when our circadian rhythms are in the downhill stage. And it happens in shorter chunks than the "ideal" chunk for creative and flow-driven work. The pandemic & having them at home has exacerbated these issues. PS: If you have young twins or are about to have them, it is true that feeling normal happens when they are 5, and not before. This is much later than if you are having one kid at a time, on average.