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One of my biggest problems is with #18. I don't know any social places that are 'comfortable' to me (heck, I get nervous when I go to new IRC chat rooms...), so
by spydez 18y ago
One of my biggest problems is with #18. I don't know any social places that are 'comfortable' to me (heck, I get nervous when I go to new IRC chat rooms...), so I don't really have a place to practice any of the other things they talk about.
- jmatt 18y agoyou are comfortable on these forums. Or at least comfortable enough to post comments.
- spydez 18y agoYes. After a year(ish) of lurking with no account, and 130 days of having an account here, I have finally settled down to a state where I type out at least 1/10 the comments I think of, post at least 1/5 those I type out, and leave the majority of those undeleted! And after working with my current co-workers for a few months, I finally have courage to say something once in a while. But attrition doesn't work in most social settings... It's a difficult way to make friends (though the friends you do eventually make are good) - I made one friend in 4.5 years of college. And it's downright horrid for getting girlfriends...
- jmatt 18y agoI have many of the same feelings and the only difference is I've learned to deal with it. I think part of what wasn't communicated in the article was that those tendencies don't necessarily go away. People just learn to cope with them better. Or at least that is how it is for me.