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This matches my experience. I've practised "paying it forward" and the rewards have been incredible. I've got way more back than I ever gave. People are always
by marcus_holmes 6y ago
This matches my experience.
I've practised "paying it forward" and the rewards have been incredible. I've got way more back than I ever gave. People are always ready to be nice to each other, but sometimes wary of strangers.
I've seen the other side of it, too. Where people approach situations with a "what's in it for me" attitude, and get nowhere. Their fear of getting ripped off, or "losing" in the interaction, stops them from being trusted.
- crawfordcomeaux 6y agoI wonder if my experiences match yours because I'm white.
- marcus_holmes 6y agoI'd never even thought of that. Interesting. I'll have to compare notes with non-white friends.
- 082349872349872 6y agoI once lived in a bilingual area in the States. Depending upon how I was dressed, I would be greeted in either english or spanish[1] when walking into a shop. My experience was that people were more helpful (to the extent of addressing me as "paisano") in spanish. I suspect this is because when I was greeted in english, I was being greeted as an out-group[2] member. [1] hypothesis: if you have never learned to code-switch, you are probably a member of a preferred group. [2] not necessarily due to being classified as anglophone, more likely due to being classified as tourist.