I never invalidated someone's feelings. I merely stated that the logic they are using to validate their own feelings is flawed. It's very possible to change the

I never invalidated someone's feelings. I merely stated that the logic they are using to validate their own feelings is flawed. It's very possible to change the frame of your mind through the language you use. If you remove the negative thoughts of "bothing" someone when they are merely trying to make ends meet, your feelings might change. In fact, by not bothering them, you may be giving their boss fuel for them to NOT have a job.